Thought in my head about if you suspect someone of being poly and your interested them, is it worth asking?

This does relate to my previous post and I like the “just flirt” route since its got the best case for it

  • Talcosis@lemmy.zip
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    16 days ago

    I guess there is a gender aspect as well. One of my dude friends casually mentioned they were poly when talking about relationships. Nothing out of the ordinary, really. Just “oh, cool”.

    This girl I knew who I was a bit on the fence about invited me on a date and showed up with two other guys. I don’t have a problem with one night stands, but I have literally no interest in sharing. Then she got real mad when I didn’t try to hook up with her then and there. I didn’t even realize it was a poly thing until later that night, I thought she intended a platonic hang and I was the crazy one that thought it was a date.

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      16 days ago

      Not sure, I’m a dude and it was the guy of the couple mentioning it at a hello

      But anyway, that was a really different situation than most people will get into - and I don’t want to explain that more

      Edit: on second read, it seems we were in kinda the same situation ;⁠-⁠)