I was invited to my brother’s wedding, but he didn’t invite my mother because he still has a petty grudge against her, and he obviously wants to turn me against my mother. I’ve also ignored the RSVP, but I don’t know if anyone knows this.
I did not tell my co-workers about the wedding. I didn’t even WANT to bring the subject up. But my co-workers know my brother very well, and they REALLY want me to go to my brother’s wedding. I told them “Let me check my schedule” because I don’t want to talk to them about my family drama, but they told me “You have to go. You want to see them walking your nephew, right?”
What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to avoid this conversation? How can I tell them I’m not going without creating drama?
The conflict between your mother and brother is not your concern. Your job is not to take any side. The drama is not yours.
The expectation is to attend weddings of close family.
By going you are not siding with your brother.
By not going you are however siding with your mother.
This is because unless there were a conflict between your mother and brother you would attend.