Some of you are really lucky you’ve never seen a loved one die of a painful terminal illness. Counseling a family member that it’s relatively normal to feel relieved in that kind of situation is actually a pretty common thing in hospice. Depression is a lot less plainly visible as both the symptoms and root cause are almost entirely internal or at least largely conceptual vs cancer cells you can conclusively test for or watch some one’s eyes sinking back into their head and hair fall out in clumps while they puke everywhere. It’s a lot harder to empathize with the depth of the suffering when you’re unable to perceive it. When people are able to perceive and as a result more fully empathize with their loved one’s prolonged suffering it’s actually completely normal to be relieved when they’re not in pain anymore.