Admin options would be cool - although this would exacerbate the issue of picking an I stance and then figuring out your pick was wrong for your purpose. Fediverse generally tries to avoid that.

Without compression, every instance would have to deal with issues of free space, which is very sensitive when we talk about small servers ran on good will of the people.

As much as political differences matter, you will not change his mind by not going - but your relationships will get much, much more bitter, and it will be hard to rectify. Many people went through this mistake, and it costed them a lot.

Honor his wedding while keeping to your values. This event has nothing to do with them.

Huh?

Ignoring ADHD is bad, I’m only talking about why people without it are sometimes inclined to behave this way and what could be done to break their arguments.

I don’t think this question in itself will attract enough people to be worth posting, which is why I put it here under a related post.

There’s no attempt to hijack anything, I must assure you

I’ll begin to get a conversation going

Note: ADHD is very real and very hard on people who have it.

I know two people with diagnosed ADHD, and as with many disorders, it is common that people expect others without it to be completely lacking, or, this case, have only mild experiences of a similar kind.

Regular people absolutely get most of the common experiences of an ADHD individual: they can quickly get overwhelmed, struggle with motivation to do some basic everyday things and then get hyperfocused on something and forget the rest completely, can have impulses they don’t control. They, too, manage to develop a lot of tricks for maintaining motivation and going through the everyday issues.

What matters for diagnosis is the severity of these events and how often they occur. With ADHD, all those events happen so often that it gets impossible or strikingly hard to pursue what you need without using techniques/medication to manage your behavior.

This is why many regular people may not understand or not accept ADHD as something valid and why it may not help to list to them the kind of limitations you have - they have all the same experiences, it’s just that they are less common and severe, and so they manage to force through them while you may get overwhelmed.

A more helpful approach could probably be to come from the fact it’s a real diagnosis, and outlining just what it means exactly to have ADHD, to talk about the severity of the episodes and how they are not only experienced by you personally, but also described in the medical literature. This still probably won’t change the mind of some bigots, but it might help other people to understand it better.

Hope there is some insight in here.

A reverse question is actually quite interesting as well:

People without ADHD, but who know others with ADHD: what are the common misconceptions about “being normal”?

High-quality food. For me, food is one of the main sources of enjoyment, and if instead I’ll have to shove something down my throat just to satisfy hunger, I’ll get very depressed very quickly.

АС - in the outlet

DC - coming to your battery

The charger essentially alters voltage and also turns AC into DC (and provides extra resistance so you don’t fry your laptop)

They are soft, easy to grab, and they belong to an attractive person’s body at large, which makes them an amazing tactile experience overall.

On the looks, they greatly complement the hourglass shapes, which are very harmonious and pleasing.

Key word here being “intellectual”. It’s important to recognize the issues and think of how we can affect the solution, but this is not what media at large provides or induces. It sews panic, doom, and ultimately loss of agency.

Filtered most of the political content out of my Lemmy and other feeds, went back to using RSS to deliver content (a surprising amount of sites of all kinds absolutely do support RSS, it’s not dead in the slightest), focused more on family and things on hand.

Generally, regaining sense of agency over whatever’s around you is a single best antidote.

Stay on Earth. Mars colonization is important to give humanity a place to survive should Earth be destroyed or damaged beyond repair by cataclysmic events.

But it is not our second chance at building home once Earth has been drained. At any point, reversing climate change on Earth is way, way easier than terraforming Mars. We don’t need to deliver anything to it, it’s where we are already, and even after a lot of fuckery, it will still be the most suitable place for humans to live. Moreover, we know exactly what to do to reverse the trend on Earth - and can only be left to guess what to do with Mars.

Sad to know it’s happening. Though I must assume it’s mostly part of cringey right-wing/incel culture along the lines of “your body, my choice” etc. Do you think it’s common enough around Lemmy to justify policing of a very regular word? Or do you think it may serve as a common enough trigger?

I, for the life of me, can’t understand why everyone is so concerned about the word.

When I say “male”, no one bats an eye. Should I say “female”, hell breaks loose.

The word “female” exists along with “male”, just the same way “women” exists along with “men”. It’s just an adjective form. There’s no need to overcomplicate it, and no inherent intent to do whatever bad you assume when someone says it.

Oh yeah, typical Internet “left”. Could you elaborate instead of swearing all over?

Quite a civil and reasonable response.

Any elaboration on what I got wrong?

If you suggest we have to somehow “rectify” the mistakes of our ancestors (ours even?) beyond promoting equality of all people, I regret to inform you that “historic justice” is a component of fascist rhetoric.

The only good response to inequality in the past is struggling for equality in the present. Otherwise you promote the same discrimination, just the kind that benefits you, based in part on history you personally never got to experience. And if that’s the case, I’m double disgusted.

We should put much more resources to improving conditions in predominantly black neighborhoods - precisely because they are far worse than white ones on average. We should heavily invest in providing decent quality of life in Africa, where most black people live, despite everyone only seemingly caring about blacks in the Western world. We should drop the perception of black people as dangerous gangstas holding pistols in the pockets - all while promoting conditions that would foster better living standards and security. We should ensure everyone is truly equal in the face of law. We should ensure people of any origin have equal access to job opportunities, education, healthcare, proper accommodation. I stand for that. But the moment you suggest we should somehow “rectify” mistakes done by other people in other times, what do you even mean? Should we build a black supremacist world to “compensate” for the injustice of the past? If yes, you’re a black supremacist scumbag that is not an iota better than white ones. If no, I welcome you to explain what you mean.

Oh and - in case this will add some context to what I say - I am not American. I live on the land that was originally an empty swamp. Through series of wars, it was occupied by the Vikings, Finns, Swedes, and Russians, with local population counting in, like, hundreds, all white and European, of various ethnicities. So, it was never a colony to begin with, more of a barren cold land with some outcasts that only possessed strategic value due to access to the sea that wasn’t completely frozen during the winter. This led to the formation of first Swedish and Russian fortresses that eventually, just 300 or do years ago, have been widely populated and turned into cities.

No, I’d rather say you have an extreme case of “race/gender over everything” mentality that permeates so many pretentiously left liberals among others.

I’m not a “settler”, I live where I was born, and I never (at least knowingly) discriminated against anyone on the basis of race. You seem to suggest that I owe you something for other people, for the severe oppression of the black people back in the days neither of us was even born, and for the milder (although very real) forms of it permeating today to which I hold no relation. I don’t have to reparate you anything, and I refuse to give you some special status you seem to feel entitled to; but if someone actively discriminates black people (or hispanic, or even whites for that matter - that is a thing in certain societies, world doesn’t end outside America), I am willing to take the side of the oppressed, and more people could join black liberation movement if you yourself wouldn’t piss everyone off.

If you, however, still want to be treated in some special way, I don’t need such camaraderie. You are either a comrade, an equal fighting alongside me (and me alongside you), or you’re not. And the most I can hope for is your realization that we have issues we both struggle with, and end this splintering of the left that makes us weak and useless, infighting over fighting our common enemy. At least the right are ready to unite, so…here we are. Enjoy the fruits of your personal liberation.

Well, believe it or not, I do take issue with this liberal pseudo-left everywhere. Big part of the reason I stopped following politics on Lemmy is because it’s mostly a uniform blob of liberals that consider themselves “the left”, and the actual left “tankies” and dangerous psycho radicals because most of their kin of “left” are American exceptionalists who really believe not being a fascist means you’re left now. And that took me a LOT of filter rules, not just unsubbing politics-related communities, to finally silence that shitflow.

We all are victims of the current political situation - some more, some less. Even trans folks, which are probably under the heaviest of fires right now, often prefer NOT to immerse themselves in the political debates and news more than it is required to merely survive - and that’s totally understandable, because when politics hits you heavy every day, some people need to take a breather. Don’t deny them that.

And me being white male doesn’t mean I’m free from any oppression. While you may experience more of it due to additional traits, such as you being black, that’s not alpha and omega of it, and the more we split, the less effective we are at uniting where we can and where it is equally if not more important - to fight for the working class. A black billionaire lives an infinitely better life than I do, and he does it by exploiting us all - white, black, male, female, nonbinary, cis and trans. That’s not to say racism isn’t real or some shit - a white billionaire would do even better - but there are many axis of oppression, and it’s not like you’re oppressed and I am not. Besides, I’m all for the demolition of racism, and while I could be less vigilant, I’m not much more tolerant to it.