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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • It’s not just a boomer issue, it is also guys who grew up with somebody else doing the cleanup afterward.

    Old can give you a non consistent stream, but a considerate old person would then wipe their spills.

    But I had 30 year old friends stop by an spray everywhere. So I talked to them about sitting down to pee.

    My coworkers wife told her husband “have your friends over any time for drinks, etc, but I’m not cleaning up any piss, so after your friends leave you have to completely clean the bathroom” He started to realize how gross men can be about pissing everywhere.








  • BCsven@lemmy.catoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What’s your love language?
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    12 days ago

    Gaslighting women LOL. It is not gender biased–meaning trying tobsway women to be subservient and men dominant… Its irrelevant who set it up, that’s a fallicious arugment. But since you brought it up it does have basis on the hierarchy of human needs from psychology papers.

    Categorization involves finding the limits that determine a category, you could probably break it into a 100 or more, but then you add complexity for no reason, these are distilled to the most base set.

    If you don’t want to like it because of a pastor you can get a similar scooe with Ortan-Gilingham method since it was backed by science research not just anecdotes from those tested.

    I disagree it all boils to acts of service. For example I score high on Physical touch, but it doesn’t require an act of service like a back massage, just lying next to my wife with our skin touching is enough to keep my tank full. She could be asleep so there is 0 act of service. It a basic human skin to skin thing like when they say babies (and chimp studies) should have skin to skin contact with mom.

    But buy me a gift or do something for me has no tank filling properties. Its nice but, meh



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    13 days ago

    It does work though. Partners often give based on what they need…because humans assume everyone is just like them. But funding your partners actual need makes a difference.

    Example, my wife likes acts of service and gifts, so she would previously assume I’d want those things. But I score a zero on gifts and acts of service, because I have what I need and I can do stuff for myself with no loss of feeling from my partner