BougieBirdie

I’m sorry for your loss. Grief is never easy, and it’s especially more difficult when you have the responsibility of managing your loved ones’ estate.

My mom lost her mom a few months ago. She was the executor of her estate too, and she also lamented that she never got the time or space to mourn. My relationship with my grandmother was complicated, for me the hardest part was knowing that I’ll be doing the same for my mom someday, probably sooner than I’d like.

I tried to help her through it, but she wouldn’t really let me. I think she felt that cutting through all the red tape and working through family stuff gave her something to keep her occupied, although it was clear that it wasn’t easy. She’s finally starting to make the time to mourn now, and I know that someday you’ll get a chance to too.

Anyway, I’m not much of a mom, but if you need help, advice, or someone to send you a hug, I’m here for you

I present male and I wear skirts to work. The boss said the dress code was black trousers and I said I don’t wear pants. Never been an issue

That said, it’s totally nerve-wracking to make that stand. If an employer refuses on anything other than a safety concern then it’s just bigotry, straight up.

Don’t work for bigots - which can be a difficult stance to take when you don’t know how you’re going to make rent. People don’t deserve to be put in this position, but as you say it’s the world we live in

My always-on doomscroll device’s weather app today told me about an aviation accident that killed two people in another country

I just wanted to know if the snow was going to let up, why am I getting international news of death and dismemberment?

Literally an hour ago my boss tells me he doesn’t think I’m working fast enough because things aren’t always getting finished. I tell him that six months ago the labour budget was reasonable and but now I have half as many hours to do the same amount of work.

He tells me it can’t be helped, the labour budget is what it is. I tell him that the work can’t be helped without more labour, because it is what it is.

Anyway, I guess what I learned on the job is if you use management’s own words against them you’ll get written up

I put garlic in just about everything. Probably not really a secret ingredient, but it does go with just about everything

For soup I like to add turmeric for the colour. Also kinda tasty