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Cake day: November 7th, 2025

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  • This is unsolicited advice so feel free to ignore, especially if it sounds “twee.”

    What i think helps is:
    • having a positive mindset, because it’s almost like people can sense when you are yearning to get into a relationship
    • in the same vein, treat potential mates as potential good friends. Your first few meetings with them is like their “informal interviews for being a friend.” You can invite them on a date (or just to do something together as friends)1 which is the final interview, which lets them get the higher position in your social circle.
    • I don’t say that to complicate what should already be simple; firstly, it’s getting not simple in this day age, because people don’t know what to do with all the dating apps and SM. Secondly, the message is just create a more relaxed low pressure atmosphere for them
    • to revisit the first point - this is just something many people say, and i have experienced in my own life: stop seeking a partner and one will stumble into your life. This might be why people already committed relationships get a lot of attention; they seem self satisfied.

    I also just want to say that more people are in your position than you think ❤️. Zoomed are the most sexless and relationship generation, after all.