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Do play dates with the same kids. Diff ones can be a lot.
It helps if there’s something there that kid likes. And if you can lead the conversation.
Look at all these pretty toys. My favorite color is blue. What’s your favorite color, Timmy? Max’s favorite color is green.
Etc. etc.Feeling involved in the convo is good even if they aren’t speaking
Take him to a lil kids park as much as you can. Like every weekend. When you’re there, be on the periphery and encourage him to go play with other kids. Don’t hover right next. It’s ok to make the intros and then go hang on a bench. Idea is to get him playing with other kids by himself, getting into lil disagreements, dealing with kids that aren’t nice, etc.
The sleep training method I used was:
- get sleepy and relaxed holding in arms
- put in crib. Use words Naptime or whatever they typically hear at sleeping time. Rub back a few times. 1 min max. Then walk away
- cry a lil because you feel bad.
- put a timer on for 5 mins.
- at end of 5 mins, come in, pick up and comfort. Get their breathing to even out and get them relaxed again.
- put back in crib and walk.
- Cry a lil more
- 10 min timer from then on. A lil longer if you think they’re on the brink of falling asleep.
- do this cycle until it works. A couple of nightmare nights and then it should stick. Anytime you cave, you’re breaking the training and causing more stress.
Now I’m (M) able to put in crib, sit on floor, and shh until they fall asleep on their own with minimal crying.
I used to call out ‘tag’ and hand the kid to my spouse when I was getting frustrated. Another thing thats possible is just wait out the tantrum. That’s a way of teaching them that tantrums don’t work to get what they want.
Most parenting books seemed to be summed up as ‘It depends’. There is a frustrating lack of empirically derived books. Best I can offer is talk now about parenting philosophy with spouse - e.g. how much crying is acceptable when 1 yo before you have to go comfort? When kid falls down do you swoop in or let the kid manage? Keep to that philosophy - kids hate flip-flopping on approaches
Every hour sit on potty for 10 seconds. No diapers - have to get that wet feeling and diapers wick it away. Training pants are thicker underwear. That helps. Communicate with daycare and do same strategy
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Yeah. Totally makes sense, and that is fair. Tho turns seem to lead to the ‘is it my turn yet? Is it now? Now?’ conversation that sometimes I would rather avoid.
I tell my kid I can’t play Spotify in the car, and so she’s fine with the radio or quiet. Wife does let her sometimes - and every time we get into the car with her, kid says ‘can I listen to X music’.
Sometimes a hard rule is just helpful to avoid those discussions.
The other thing I’ve learned is not to cater media to kids. E.g., every time I get in car we don’t listen to her music. I’ll put on the radio and sometimes she tells me ‘I like that’. Who knew kids would like Foo Fighters Everlong because it’s relaxing. Or that my 3 yo will watch Jane Austen movies with my wife?
How old is the kid? They might be ready for you to read chapter books to them at bedtime. I remember being about 10 and getting lotr and Brian jacques read to me. For ‘can I watch something’ - predictability is key. If they have a chance of trying to wear you down, they’ll take it. Settle for something like: you get 1 little bear after daycare, and that’s it for the rest of the day.
As other guy said tho, that means you can’t watch either tho.
IMO, daycare should be helping you with potty training.
It sounds like she is forgetting whether she has diapers on or not. That’s something you can only do by going cold turkey on diapers - minus nap and sleeptime. Then immediately off again.
Strange new world by Heinlein.
Martian Jesus comes back to earth and is like, wtf guys?
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Or
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I’m writing this, sitting in a hotel room with the kids as my wife is outside chatting with her family.
Family or friends with can help quite a bit. Just someone there to take up some of the kids attention is really all you’re asking for. If they want to do more than that, that’s good too.
10 mo old is rough. I’d say, plan to be within 15-30 mins of a hotel for most of the trip. A lake/pool seems like a good option.