I was interested, but I can’t click to visit any of the forums.

Haven’t seen it, sorry.

Please don’t do this to people. Yeah there are way too many pedophiles out there but you’re still so unlikely to meet one. Unless you go to church.

Some friends and I that hung out in college had this with 11:11 on the clock. Felt like we’d look at the time and it would be 11:11 once or even both times every day.

What’s unclear about that statement?

I absolutely refuse to watch something with a laugh track as well.

“Those are dead people laughing”

It’s true. Every day I want to get drunk. Somewhere after the third 9% beer I finally feel like “me”. Or like the best version of myself. But it’s false, just like the false confidence it brings.

I still drink once or twice a week. But every day that I don’t is a struggle whether I was drunk the day before or if I haven’t had a drink in a month.

My friend came over last night and we got drunk. At one point I said something and put my finger in his face. He misheard what I said and told me if I don’t move my finger he’s going to break it. I dared him to try. We ended up crashing over the table into the floor where he used his BJJ training to headlock me unconscious. This may sound terrible but we’ve always fought for fun over the years. What I regret is that my wife saw me go limp and it scared her.

What was the point of that? Today I feel like dogshit and my throat is so bad it hurts to talk. When we finally got around to playing the game we had planned on, my friend was so drunk he couldn’t play.

Yet I want that every day. I almost went out for beer before the snow got too bad but I stopped myself. That’s the best we addicts can hope for. To get to the point where we can stop ourselves.

Sorry a lot of talk about me, but OP you are 100% correct that your friend will never change until they want it for themselves. There is very little you can do to force that. If your friend is using opiates then please get some narcan for them and for yourself. Just be there for support because they’re going to need you once they make that decision. You can also try to make sure they have food to eat, easy stuff, because sometimes addicts neglect that and it just makes everything worse.

Absolutely, I thank her all the time for cleaning. It’s pretty fair I think. I work a lot more hours, she works pretty much 40 a week. And when I’m home I do dishes, laundry, clean litter boxes, etc.

We considered a cleaning service but we’re trying to put a down payment on a house so her mom can come live with us. We spent a lot of money on Christmas for the kids (her sister’s), but we always do. We’re getting there.

Once we have something that we’re working to own, not rent, maybe we will feel differently about cleaning.

But I was getting paid for that. It makes a huge difference, along with knowing someone else will notice.

This is where we struggle. We are both tidy as can be at work. I go to new places all the time and leave them in much better shape than I found them. Anyone who has been in a lot of data/comm closets and server rooms can tell you that they are often neglected to the point of ridiculousness. My wife does pretty much all the cleaning at the physical therapy clinic where she works, even though that is not in her job description.

But our house is a mess. We have four cats, two with long hair. I’m usually gone all week so that leaves most of the work to my wife. I try to clean the bathroom when I’m home (toilet and sink at least). I’ve turned the “dining room” table into my resupply stockpile between trips. Most of the stuff there is used but it looks terrible.

Being paid makes such a difference in our attitudes towards cleaning.

Maybe because he’s doing ok now, getting 100k plus USD annually from a couple big-ass corporations after he struggled for 20+ years. And living in Germany, one of the best countries to be a citizen of.

I’m not saying he doesn’t deserve it, he does plus back pay for all the other work.

I was mistaken. It is the biggest and most discussed survey though so I still think it should be mentioned.

That’s fair.

The first half of the article focuses on the biggest study, the NSDUH

SAMHSA’s annual National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH). NSDUH does not measure different mental health conditions individually, and probably fails to catch personality disorders.

That’s where I saw the information.

That’s an interesting article. I appreciate that they mention that the studies may be flawed because they attained wildly different data, probably due to methodology. They also mention that people with personality disorders are often not caught by these surveys.

I’m not OP, but I am a former alcoholic, and the son of a woman who drank herself to death.

In many cases we have severe untreated mental illness, often inherited and/or from childhood trauma. We are generally suicidal. Getting black out drunk (chasing oblivion) is better than living with your thoughts and emotions.

Anecdotally, I’d like to add that most of the many alcoholics I’ve known have very strong empathy and emotional intelligence. The sad state of the world certainly contributes to some people’s alcoholism. I know it did with mine.

For many reasons, alcoholics choose to kill themselves slowly with alcohol rather than a faster way that could cause even more grief and pain to the people around them.

Fix poverty and you fix crime. I mean there will always be people with severe mental disorders that make them violent or deadly, but this could also be potentially handled by making complete mental health check ups part of universal healthcare. People who are likely to become violent could be separated from the population and potentially cured.

I remember the case of a 6 year old girl who was adopted from a situation of severe abuse, violent, sexual, and neglect. She became a violence obsessed psychopath. She kept trying to stick needles in herself along with other self harm behaviors. She attacked her adoptive parents with a knife. After this they locked her in her room at night and put a lock on their bedroom door. She attempted to kill her brother, and tortured and killed animals.

There is a documentary about her called Child of Rage. Warning - this is extremely disturbing.

Eventually, as no progress was being made, she went to live with a therapist for intense behavior modification therapy. She was cured without the use of drugs. Now she is a successful RN and author.

I went way off track here but I wanted to reemphasize that poverty is the source of the vast majority of crime, and even the most broken psychopaths can be cured.

End poverty, end child abuse, end crime. End capitalism.

Oh I get it, I’m also a hedonistic nihilist. I used to live the way you described, in a squat. I’m happier now in the house I rent with my wife and our cats. We have running water and the electricity doesn’t come from an extension cord to the neighbor’s!

But it came at the huge price of working and traveling for work all the fucking time. I’m still right there with you though. I don’t care if I’m struck down minutes after posting this. Hope it’s quick.

That’s fantastic for you but most of us don’t have the privilege.

I have to say I totally disagree with the idea but this is really good writing.

I was in gifted courses in school and I’m a fucking idiot. All it did was teach me rudimentary Spanish and make me a target later.