He’s not an asshole for disliking a Nazi. He’s an asshole for deciding to spring a question he knows the answer to which apparently demands of him to boycott a wedding.

His idiot brother likes Elon Musk. The brother isn’t disinviting him. OP is the one who created and is enforcing a rule about Elon.

I have no idea what the family dynamics are, but if they’re otherwise good and you’re willing to burn your family relationships because they don’t share your views on Elon Musk, wowza.

It’s amazing to me how willing people are to play the part of the shrill reee-ing blue haired archetype foil that Republicans created.

I’m going to get drunk and ruin a wedding. THAT will fix the world.

No, dumbass, it’s going to validate everything fox news has been telling their base about the left. You have absolutely no self awareness, and will ruin your brother’s wedding as if he was the CEO of Shell even though he’s a construction worker in rural Montana.

Be the strawman the Republicans want you to be!

Could be. Tolerance and assholes aren’t binary states, so it depends on the context what the measure is.

If someone intentionally steps on an ant at a funeral, and I decide I’m not going to let it slide and interrupt the eulogy to give an impassioned lecture about how needless killing is immoral, even if it’s an ant, I’d be an asshole.

If I saw some schoolyard bullies beating up a kid and I didn’t intervene I’d be an asshole.

“I waggle my dick in front of my brother and he punches it every time”

From OPs context, and they could certainly clarify, but it sounds like they just won’t shut up about class struggle, wealth inequality… For which for the terminally online there is an endless appetite for and you can find a cozy echo chamber to nuzzle up in.

So his brother doesn’t share the same views on Elon musk.ok. he obviously knows this by now. Why does he insist on asking about it? Why ask a question that has no bearing on either of your lives where if you don’t get an agreement on you’ll be so mad you’ll not go to their wedding when you know the answer ahead of time.

They’re both assholes. He shouldn’t go to the wedding but honestly based on the context as presented I don’t think the brother is going to be upset about it.

You can do whatever you want with your own life, but many of those things will make you an asshole.

The question posed is “will doing the thing I want to do make me an asshole”

Jimmy Buffett

That agrees with my preconceived biases, for sure.

Beyond that, I think it’s possible that the “sting” of negative reactions, or the perceived lack of positive reactions my possibly shape how people think.

And, you can buy that kind of engagement in bulk if you have money. You can train people to engage in different thought patterns buy buying upvotes (buying them dopamine), that would be my hypothesis.

If that’s true, I think the inherent danger from a sociological standpoint could not possibly be understated.

Causal relationship between social media and degradation of basic critical thinking skills. Not just tiktok, anything in which people are primarily communicating asynchronously and has a “reward” (likes, upvotes, etc)

So Reddit/Lemmy for sure included

That’s an interesting description of lemmy.ml

I’ll just say that hiding not only the instance, but also any comments from any user registered with that instance has made my Lemmy experience about 1000 times better.

Edit: oh shit I’m thinking lemmyGRAD.ml lol

Creepiest thing about this is that the implication that the adult has been hung upside down

If a 45 year old not wearing a costume and strung out on Ketamine says trick or treat at my door, they’re getting candy.

What am I, the fucking Halloween police? ACAB.

Juxtaposition of pearl-clutching Puritanism w/ a 21 drinking age against beer available in a 7-11.

Pick a fucking lane

No but I’m all-in on phrenology

CEOs wanna cosplay Steve Jobs and unvail their crazy new features. They’ve already “trimmed the fat” to appease shareholders.

They just can’t make fixing old issues sexy.

Jupiter - Holst

I can feel it at a funeral, a wedding, a birth, a Requiem for a nation defeated etc etc

My poor Roomba. (Toddler)

My critique is of your process, not your result. And, my thesis is that in the long term, developing and refining your how is actually more important than coming to a correct conclusion.

If you just are told what a correct conclusion is and you don’t understand why, and can’t even evaluate the validity of why, then you’re you’re just surrendering yourself to group think. This is how people get MAGA-ized or Jordan Peterson-ized and how they can’t get out.

Hypothetically, let’s say someone was staunchly pro-Israel, and NOTHING they were doing made you want to be critical of actions by them.

And then say that suddenly they changed their mind. Not because of the genocide they’re perpetrating against the Palestinians, but instead because MTG was going off about “Jewish space lasers”. Ok, sure, maybe it’s “good” that interests have coincidentally aligned, but you’re still not really a rational agent, and I can’t really trust you to make ethical evaluations because your process is nonsensical.

It’s more important to me, and for your role as a member of a functional society to be able to critically evaluate information than it is for you to simply “land” on a good conclusion by what is essentially random chance.

I do recognize it’s difficult to admit that you’ve changed your mind. I am sorry, I do commend you for it. I even respect you for it.

Consider this just a call to action that I sincerely believe that you can improve your ability to self-assess and evaluate information critically and logically. Without someone explaining the weakness in your decision making process, you’d be missing an opportunity to consider and reevaluate your own processes.

So you were able to gloss over all of the actual scummy things she does for personal benefit…

And the one thing that changed your mind is something that had NOTHING to do with her?

It wasn’t her procedure. It wasn’t her spa. She has nothing to do with this.

This is like if I say “cycling is great, you should do it” (I like this facial), and then instead of buying a bike from a bike shop (licensed spa), you buy it from a shady bike thief (unlicensed spa with no records leaving unsealed blood laying around). And then it turns out the bike was stolen from a drug lords kid (HIV positive blood from unknown source). So when they see you riding it they shoot you (gets HIV).

There are many, many people at fault in a scenario like this. But, unbelievably, in THIS scenario Gwyneth actually isn’t one of them.

Clicking through 90 fucking prompts if I wanna donate to charity or learn about their credit card offerings or if I want to sign up for their rewards program or if I want to give them my email so they’ll email me a receipt?

… Are YOU the mod from Fox news?