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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Oh, don’t worry about that. The inflated egos are distributed across all the musicians too. It takes a special kind of personality to achieve that level of singular proficiency.

    I think it’s one other reason to HAVE a conductor, is to have an ultimate authority on some matters where musicians egos get involved.

    In many (most?) compositions, there are going to be some banger little licks in many different sections. It honestly kinda sucks sometimes when you’ve got one… but you gotta hold it back because it’s still just a supporting component. To you, as the musician… you might fall in love with it, wanna push it, take the opportunity to shine and generate some goosebumps. And, obviously, since you’re God’s gift to the world, you SHOULD. The composer was WRONG to hit you with a mp. Maybe the composer’s French Horns couldn’t lead with it, but they never envisioned your talent.

    The trumpets shoot you a look to calm down? Fuck 'em. They always get the spotlight.

    Having a structure with an ego to rule all egos helps (does NOT eliminate) these kinds of things.


  • At the highest levels of proficiency, knowing “when to play” doesn’t rreeaallyy require a conductor.

    An orchestra of professionals mutates into this crazy combined organism. A hive mind, with thousands of signals being generated and consumed among the members. Negotiations all over the place.

    The conductor stands in the front not just because it’s convenient, but because they’re in the best relative position to understand what the audience will ultimately hear. If I’m in percussion, positionally I’m getting a skewed take on the relative dynamics of the piccolos. As a professional, they’d have a good “gut feel”, but thier ears are simply not in the right spot to know for sure. The conductors are.

    The acoustics of a performance space are drastically different when the seats are full of meat, too.

    The conductor is acting as the source of truth and feedback for that hive mind, from a physical position which gives them the best understanding of the complete sound being produced. While professionals CAN do a very passable job of distributing that work, it’s an additional burden and with an imperfect set of inputs. Having one person set the tone and act as that authority frees up capacity on the individuals to do thier best work.


  • 530 to sit down for supper, after supper a little outing like a bike ride or car ride to the store, be home by 7, yogurt at 730, then straight to teeth brushing/bath. Pjs/books (with the light already low, then crib.

    Also super consistent with nap timings. If he wakes up during his nap windows, we just let him chill in the crib.

    Hardest part for us was just getting everyone into the routine. Did take a few weeks.

    That being said, I’ll relay the best parenting advice we got, which was “every parent thinks what works for them is the objectively ideal approach. Every kid is different. Take it all with a grain of salt and figure out what works for you”


  • For us, having a rigidly consistent routine helped that kinda dovetailed into bedtime. Supper at the same time, baths/teeth brushing at the same time, pajamas at the same time, etc etc.

    Maybe you’re already doing that, but it helped for us. Every kid is different, so obviously your milage may vary