Someone should then probably let them know 🤷

I think it just auto-discovers federated instances and randomly shows them on the page unless explicitly disabled…

The website that you visit (as in your Lemmy instance) does log your IP address to fight abuse etc. Afaik it’s not sent to other instances, so unless the server admin sells it somewhere (which they shouldn’t but I guess you never know - that’s why some folks host their own instance), it shouldn’t leave the server.

Obviously that doesn’t mean your IP is not logged by external services embedded in the Lemmy UI you’re using - be that ads, video players, etc

Oh, my bad, somehow missed we’re on the foss community. No, I don’t know any foss alternative

Why not stay with Splitwise? The free version I’ve got allows to set multiple unequal payers and split (un)equally…

I think it’s general issue with .ml domains that became effectively inexistent.