It’s those but so bad it’s a disability. Like how just because most people don’t hear something from time to time doesn’t mean they’re all hard of hearing

Do you have a problem with the language that’s half l and y?

Holy hell wtf‽

I’ve been needing a rewatch

Avatar the last Airbender

Hell yeah!

Yeah but the cost to not looking like you’re aging is going from descending a hill to falling off a cliff and landing much lower

For seafood yes, but I’m unlikely to bother regrowing the necessary gut biome for other meats

That’s one way to let people know you’re headed to the restroom

That sounds so atypical as to make me think it may be best to have a conversation with a mental health professional about.

For me there’s an initial discomfort, but it’s the same discomfort I get when I’m exploring somewhere new. Its exciting and fun and I’m figuring out how I feel about this person/place. I get sad when I don’t experience it enough

Just online? I wish. I’ve unfortunately met dudes who talk like that irl

You should be discussing what you want early and take your time before deciding that you’ll do it together

I think it’s a lot of things. I’ve seen people looking for a badass, I’ve seen people looking for a project, and I’ve seen a lot of people looking to self harm by finding someone who treats them like they feel they deserve often seeking people who will tell them the same things their parents did

I’ll give an exception here, I’m an extrovert with social anxiety and I benefitted immensely from making myself do things and talk to people.

A friend commented on my wife and I’s attachment style the other day and yeah that’s a big one. I naturally have a disorganized (leaning anxious) attachment style and my wife naturally has an avoidant one. But from the beginning we did the work to reinforce secure attachment thought patterns in ourselves and it’s made a world of difference. So yeah, a lot of people could really use to work on their attachment style

One of the harshest lessons I’ve ever had to learn, especially as someone who struggled socially growing up, is that some people don’t have any friends for a good reason

Nope. I’d love some community but most people move every year or two here

M4A

And one thing to understand about anarchism is that it’s very much a goal oriented philosophy more than most other political philosophies. What that means is that you get a lot of different approaches and concepts from people trying different things to attempt to achieve similar goals. And this often involves practical differences between different situations. Rojava is necessarily going to do things differently from how the maknovists did things and they’re both very different from how some punks who bought some land for a commune in the American Midwest will handle it.

Yeah, I’m trans and there’s a push and pull there. I spent a long time trying to get people to understand and speak up for me so I don’t have to be the one to correct when I’ve been misgendered, but I remember being young and confrontational once and I got into fights over it and probably made trans people look like psychos at the time. And I was definitely worse to be around when I was doing more activism and community support.

I’ve long since accepted that gentle nudges and honest connections are the key to mass acceptance, but that at times we will have to make showy displays of our struggle for equal rights. And that doesn’t mean I don’t get to be angry or frustrated when I’m being hurt, it just means I need to accept that people trying are trying and that my role as someone who’s increasingly an elder in my community is partly to encourage people to know when to yell and when to gently correct