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Cake day: May 14th, 2024

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  • What I thought mattered at the time: Opinions of other people
    What actually mattered: My own opinions

    People expected me to borrow money, buy a house, get married, travel the world etc. I didn’t actually want to do any of those. Well, eventually I did screw up, got stuck in that situation for years, but now I’m finally free again. Phew. 😌

    If I could send a message back in time to a 20 year old me it would be this:
    You may not be entirely sure about what you do want, but you certainly know what you don’t want. Let the latter guide you. When people expect you to do something you don’t want, don’t do it. Peer pressure in this context is just annoying noise, nothing more. You shouldn’t make life-altering things unless you’re really sure about it. It isn’t enough that everyone else has done it and expects you to follow suit. Contrary to many cultural norms, the people around you don’t actually always know what’s good for you.





  • It depends. Many people have something odd going on here and there, but most of it doesn’t really require medical intervention. Some of those things actually go away sooner or later anyway, so an intervention can do more harm than good. Chances are, it’s just going to freak you out for nothing, and cost you money.

    The thing is, you never know. There’s always a chance that something truly horrifying is brewing inside you, and ignoring it is going to cost you your life, or worse. What if you’re one of the lucky few who need to get something fixed before it becomes a serious issue? Who knows.

    The way I see it, the expected value of this equation is pretty harmless. If you feel completely normal, it’s probably nothing.











  • Everything needs to have a place: box, drawer, hook, jar, bin, anything. If it doesn’t have a place, it’s just going to end up randomly anywhere and everywhere.

    You need to decide a fixed place for everything. There needs to be a fixed place for yarns, maybe multiple places for different types of yarn. There should be a specific location for fabrics. If there’s not enough floor space, start using the walls. Even the ceiling is a place where you can attach hooks, loops and whatnot.

    You just need to make a hundred little decisions while organizing everything, but once that’s done you can skip the burdensome decisions in the future and simply follow the system you built earlier. Once there’s a system, don’t deviate from it, and that requires some discipline. If following it becomes a routine, you no longer have to spend much mental energy in sustaining it.