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  • What genres are you looking in?

    For building games, factorio, or satisfactory absolutely blow away anything from yesteryear. There are similar games in many genres.

    It’s worth noting that some genres saturated a while back. FPS type games have been optimised to the limits for a while. It’s difficult to make something new and interesting in that environment.

    It’s also worth noting that shovelware production has been industrialised, particularly in mobile gaming. Companies pump out mass numbers of games, that are basically reskins of each other. They are entirely focused on $$$ rather than making good games. They are predatory to the extreme, and water down the market further in the areas they attack.










  • That’s ok, not everyone gets that hit. A significant number of people (I want to say around 20%) don’t have the nerve connecting their pheromone receptors to their brain. It sounds like you are in that group.

    The bond will still form, it will just be later, and based on interactions, rather than hormonal. It’ll be worth it eventually. Just focus on being a good dad, even if it’s just by rote. It’ll come.


  • Believe it or not, that’s not an uncommon feeling. Evolutionary wise, there’s no particular reason for the dad to bond with the baby. It’s completely dependent on mum. What we get is often a spillover for the drive to get mum to bond.

    I was lucky and had that bond kick in quite quickly, but it’s ok if it doesn’t. Likely it will kick in around 6 months, as the baby becomes more “interesting”. Until then, be a good husband.

    It’s also worth noting that you are entering peak “emergency mode”. Right now the baby is completely dependent on you. It hasn’t settled down into a routine, and you are running low on sleep. They combine to utterly screw with your head.

    The mentality that got me through that zone was this: mum looks after the baby, I look after mum. I made sure she had regular meals. That she had time for a shower. That she could have a coherent night sleep.

    Something that might help is to sniff your baby’s head. Babies put off powerful pheromones, designed to reinforce the bonds. Unfortunately, not everyone has active pheromone receptors. If you do though, that smell is like crack cocaine.

    In short, you’re doing well. Baby is safe and cared for, and you’re doing your share of that work. Anything else is a bonus.


  • cynar@lemmy.worldOPtoParenting@lemmy.worldDamage resistant shoes
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    The leather school shoes are one of the current cycle. The ones with the sole wrapping over the toes seem to be the best so far. She still manages to mangle them however. They are also no good for PE or other uses.

    I’ll look into shoegoo however. I suspect skaters put similar wear and tear on their shoes.



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    Rock climbing is on the list. She’s almost old enough to go to the local walls. She already does multiple sports and activities, they don’t wear her out. She can walk most adults into the ground, and still have energy to spare. Think energizer bunny, but with the fuel cell from the Terminator. If we figure out a way to reliably get the energy out, she will have a new hobby, whether she wants it or not! 🤣


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    She’s fairly good about not injuring herself. Toes and knees feel pain, so she protects them. Unfortunately, shoes don’t, so they are fair game to scrape and tear as convenient. She tends not to kick things explicitly. It’s more she does things like trailing her toe up the small wall she’s climbing, so she doesn’t accidentally kick it.

    Shoe quality wise, I’ve definitely noticed they are nowhere near as robust as adult shoes. The work shoes started out as a complete joke idea. Unfortunately I’ve still to come up with anything better.

    Looks like I need to find the girliest little safety trainers I can find.