It’s a cultural thing. We in the anglosphere have been mentally poisoned to need everything to be transactional or cost to benefit analysis based. ‘What’s in it for me’ mentality.
Date other cultures to find what you’re looking for, but there will be other expectations from you, as well.
Studied abroad, made some friends. One asked me to ride along to his work. His work wasn’t ahhh, ‘above board’ and he had pissed off his boss, so he took me along as insurance that he wouldn’t be treated badly as their govt would be very pissed to have a foreigner disappear as well. Holy smokes, that was an intensive language immersion experience.
Well yeah, the plants worship the Sun.
And fungi digest us all.