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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • If you can, ignore it or dismiss it as “old man yells at clouds”.

    Either way, unfortunately, you have to find a way, somehow, to deal the issue so that it stops causing you problems. It’s hard and it sucks.

    IMHO as a parent, my kids owe me nothing and I owe them everything. I created them after all.

    This is kind of rubbish advice, sorry.

    You could ask him what he expects you to do about it. Force him to follow through on his line of reasoning to the conclusion. Does he want it paid back? Does he want to estrange his children?

    That can work because, rather than contacting contradicting him you’re facilitating him reasoning through his position. Hopefully for the best.




  • Falling awkwardly when that little is remarkably risk free (within reason) bones and joints are bendy and mild injuries heal quickly and lessons will be learned practically.

    Toddlers are exploring all boundaries and this behaviour is exploring their boundaries of physical resilience.

    Let them explore, let them go until they find their limit… then explain, immediately.

    Of course, this requires you make sure a serious accident can’t happen, so get rid of that glass coffee table etc.

    Example, my son fell off his top bunk, while clambering around like a loon, hurts arm, needs a cast for a few months. Learns to use the ladder.









  • The thread is a bit of a dumpster fire…

    I’ve been mulling over your actual question a bit. I could argue that some of the stigmatisation could just be that it’s really easy to dislike someone who’s self centred or selfish, that NPD can present similarly (gross assumptions on my part there, sorry) makes it easy to dislike someone with NPD.

    Disliking someone makes it very easy to stigmatise any and all of their traits. It becomes a feedback loop.

    Anyway, I hope you manage it well and hope you can surround yourself with supportive people.