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  • Nah. Blahaj is also a safe space and well moderated without impinging on others enjoyment. Hexbear actively discourages other communities from participation, not with prejudice but with memes and childishness.

    There are probably lots of great communities on hexbear but their bigger ones give a bad reputation to the instance in general. I’ve interacted with some great members in communities on non hexbear instances but for my instance at least, defederation was a net benefit.

    If federation allows blocking communities, rather than instances in the future, that could change. However, currently it’s only on a per user basis, so it becomes tiresome.


  • I found sleep waking too much and struggled when woken. If you are both not working, having a schedule helps. Sleep training helps, but you may have tried that. Being super strict is the only way any of these systems work, so bear that in mind.

    I found that a combination of shushing rocking and darkness helped but on bad nights it could take 3 hours for first sleep and be every hour after that at 18 months. However, most days it was sleep and nonwakes at that age. The more you can establish a routinez the better. Structuring physical activity to support sleep is good too. So lihmght exercise before naps. More exertion before night bed but at least an hour prior.

    Regularity is also helpful. With everything. Naps, meals, night sleep, location. Routine is hugely beneficial. So starting a routine with a bath, brush teeth, familiar song, read bedtime story etc. We still use night lights that gradually dim over time for our 6 and 7 year olds, that were helpful when they were younger.



  • A 4 year old has a different attention span and different understanding than a 6 year old or an 8 year old. They are going to make shows that cater for them. They may as well use existing characters in an age appropriate way.

    I’ve 2 kids and the older of the 2 still struggles with the pacing of spider man movies geared more towards 10-12 year Olds, even if it’s not particularly inappropriate as he’s just a year or two younger.

    Star wars is for kids, as is spider man but they need to have the attention span and emotional maturity that a 4 year old doesn’t have. It’s a gentle introduction which probably allows them to appreciate the real thing a bit earlier than they otherwise would…

    We also need to accept that some of the things we liked as kids won’t be like by our kids. Star wars for kids was Ewoks: the battle for endoe, when I was a kid. It’s awful.