i think synapse is just kind of awful. i’m running a continuwuity (fork of conduwuit) server, and it’s been incredibly straightforward and painless compared to synapse

if ios, then Arctic for sure. it’s the only one that feels as smooth as apollo did, has some excellent customizability, and is just as feature rich as the more popular clients

if it was torturous then nobody would bother learning instruments

the only impulsive part of this acquisition is how willing you seem to be to give up. just try it again. and then if you’re not satisfied by how it’s going, that’s an excellent excuse to do it again. and the cycle repeats until one day, you are satisfied by how it’s going