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Cake day: March 12th, 2024

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  • I’m 6’3” and short among the cousins in my family. I don’t mind being a couple inches shorter in conversation. I get a little self conscious when I’m a head or more above everyone else in the room, which is a semi regular thing. I want to be shorter when I bonk my head on things that are low hanging for me. If I was any taller it would be even more difficult to find clothing.

    I wouldn’t mind being a couple inches shorter, around 6 feet even.


  • Time Squad. I was shocked that my mind could dredge it up after all these years.

    It’s like Mr. Peabody and Sherman except instead of going back in time to educate the kid they’re time cops going back to correct history and the kid is the one who knows how it should go down. Think something like going back to colonial America and finding the founding fathers wanting to open a tea shop to have a tea party in, then coaxing them into the Boston Tea Party and kicking off the Revolutionary War.



  • I joined Lemmy.world a couple years ago after kbin.social closed down, and made a Piefed account a few months ago when people said it was pretty good. I use both daily for different things.

    For Lemmy I have found there is a big block button on each community page, so I use it a lot more than on Piefed. I also have my default sort set to top of the last 12 hours and to hide a post after I have viewed it. Sometimes if a post is only an hour or two long and doesn’t have a ton of comments I’ll wait a few hours to open it to have more comments to read. If it’s immediately interesting/relevant I’ll open it in a new tab, read it, then leave the tab to refresh later for further discussion since it won’t show up on my home page again. I also make heavy use of the Active sort after looking at the first page of 25 (I think) top results, which often leads to finding posts that I maybe wasn’t super interested in a day or two ago that now enough comments to make me interested in what the discussion is going on. There’s also a bug in the Active sort where the second page doesn’t load which is great to me because it encourages me to get off of Lemmy at that point.

    All this has led my Lemmy usage to be very focused on what I am interested in, and there is a much higher ratio of posts that I am interested in. When I am bored and want to look at my phone, Lemmy is what I open. It’s where I tend to discuss things most frequently because I tend to find posts here first and they are more frequently things I want to speak on.

    Piefed is where I go after Lemmy (You’ll never guess my username there). It looks like you can block communities, but you have to dig into your account settings and search for the community, which takes more work than I care to give. Unlike Lemmy, you can block keywords in your settings, so I blocked “Trump” and “Musk” when I made the account which has cut out the vast majority of the exhausting posts I would see otherwise (I do leave Politics and World News unblocked on Lemmy to see the biggest politics posts that float to the top). I have my default sort set to top posts of the last 24 hours and since I have no communities blocked I get a lot of comics and memes that I have blocked on Lemmy. The first page loads what feels like 100 posts instead of the 25 on Lemmy. I don’t know what the Active sort on Piefed is doing, but I do not care for it. I really like that I can set the default comment sort on Piefed, as it saves me the click and loading time of selecting Top comments every time I load a post.

    All this leads my use of Piefed to feel like a funny junk drawer of mostly memes and comics that make me go “heh” every so often and occasionally share a meme to my friend group chat. The top 100 posts of the last day don’t change quickly so it usually only feels worthwhile to scroll once, maybe twice a day. I also don’t (can’t?) hide posts on Piefed which leads to a greater sense of redundancy, which by the time I’ve reached the bottom of the front page means I probably shouldn’t be scrolling more anyway.

    If you can, you should make an account with both and see what feels best to you. Maybe you were looking for a more technical answer, but I can only speak to how it feels as an end user. A year ago I did start to throw a couple dollars to Lemmy each month for the server usage.


  • I haven’t met my aunt’s cousin many times, but I did hear about her wedding. For his vows, Mike 3 (the third Mike she dated and I think second she had married) crushed an entire Mike’s Hard Lemonade then declared “I love you so much, Babe!” After the ceremony they took the rifles that had been leaning a few feet away and shot some targets nearby. I think that was a few weeks after she had been excited that 7 years had passed since her last bankruptcy, which meant she could start racking up debt again and go on a cruise.

    I guess kudos to them for living their best lives, but if all that’s not a little trashy, I don’t know what is.




  • Alright, here are the official stats: getting perfectly clean gives you the buff Cleanliness IV for 1 hour, which then degrades to Cleanliness III for 3 hours, to Cleanliness II for 8 hours, followed by Cleanliness I for 12 hours.

    The time runs at a base rate of 1 hour per hour, but your environment may lead to the rate accelerating or decreasing. For instance, being out in the hot sun may lead to sweating which increases the rate to 1.25-4 hours per hour depending on how hot it is and your passive constitution score and buffs. Being in a perfectly air conditioned, filtered environment could reduce the rate as low as .5 hours per hour.

    There can also be instant hits to the timer. For instance, being hit by a thimble of mud may take off 10 minutes at once, slathering it to to cover more skin will take off a larger chunk from the timer.



  • When I think of my favorite albums, they tend to have come to me at a time to hit me emotionally. There may be one or two songs that aren’t my favorite, but don’t detract from the whole. Oddly enough if I listen to an entire album I prefer it be a concept album, but my favorites tend to not have one cohesive theme. My favorites ordered by time include:

    The Red Album by Weezer- My dad gave me the CD when I was in middle school, we’d jam to it in the car on the way to school, and when I got an mp3 player I’d listen to just about every song often.

    Dark Side of the Moon by Pink Floyd- Yes, this is a cliche. The one time I experienced ego death was on a heroic dose of LSD in college while laying in bed with an eye mask on listening to this album for the first time. I felt that I was in on a joke, that life was so vast and yet so short. I laughed, I cried, it moved me. I gave serious consideration to what I wanted out of life for the first time instead of only wanting some direction given to me. I listened to the album many more times after that when I needed a reminder of that experience.

    The New Abnormal by The Strokes- This album came out at the start of the pandemic when I was stressing out of my mind at the state of the world. I loved the album name, I love every song off the album, they all felt relatable in some way, Spotify said I was in the top .5% of Strokes listeners that year. When one song comes on from my library I’m always tempted to play the whole thing. It’s great.

    The Sonic Age by The Symposium- I think this is one of my favorites. I couldn’t name half the songs, but I found the artist and the album came out shortly after my dad passed away. I really like how rushed yet smooth and relaxed the album feels, it mirrored how I felt processing his death and I could just put it on and feel fine with not being fine for a bit.


  • In 10th grade, my best friend moved away and I realized I had very few friends left. I had spent middle school considering myself part of the “social outcast” group that didn’t really fit into any of the cliques. What I did was find the lunch table that other students I shared classes with and sat there listening to them talk. Sometimes all the seats were full and I sat at a different table, but eventually as I got to understand the people and dynamics at play I started chiming in a little more until eventually I was part of the friend group.

    From there I felt more comfortable talking to more people, so I did until eventually in senior year there were folks saying hi to me while walking down the hall pretty frequently, I knew most people in my graduating class of 350 to some degree, and for some reason I was voted prom king.

    I had the benefit of being in the same school district from grades 1-12 so I had had most of my life to that point to learn names, but my core advice remains the same. I became less awkward (or at least good enough at owning being awkward to not matter) by befriending new people, and I befriended new people by inserting myself into a friend group over time, and I did that by just being present and quiet until I felt comfortable enough to speak up more.









  • I was fortunate enough to grow up firmly middle class. My dad sold car chemicals for a pretty good income. He and my stepmom (who also made good money in project management) explained the concept of golden handcuffs to me in high school, that when you start making a lot of money and get used to that lifestyle it’s tough to take a pay cut that takes it away. They didn’t seem especially happy or content to me so having a lot of money has never been a priority for me. I just want enough to get by and save for the future.

    When I was scraping by on 28k a year slinging pizzas and delivering for the post office on Amazon Sundays I told my project manager uncle that if I made twice what I did at the time I would be fine. Now I do make 60k working IT for a school district where I can sometimes do some good, and like I had told my uncle I’m doing fine now. I have a pension, I can max out my Roth IRA, have a good down payment for my next car when mine kicks the bucket, and I’m lucky enough to rent a couple rooms relatively cheap from a friend who was lucky enough for their farmer parents to buy them most of a house, all owing me to save a few hundred a month for a house of my own. And I can still buy nice stuff for myself every now and then.

    Sometimes I think it would be nice to have an extra 10 or 20k for extra breathing room, but moving back to the private sector would suck, and I would probably just end up like my mother whose financial advisor literally tells her to spend more money. I feel very privileged to say this, but I just don’t think I could be bought at this point.