Even with people using more than they need we still overproduce by an alarming amount. Also someone wearing 5 shirts a day doesn’t contribute that much to consumption, just extra laundry detergent, which is a resource that can be stockpiled for a long time.

There are a lot of ways that we do over consume, though many of them just… Do kind of go away when we’re not run ragged constantly. Don’t need to buy shinies to numb the pain when the pain is gone, y’know?

A lot of overconsumption is fueled by industries doing it on purpose, too, clothing being a prime example of that. Clothes used to last, but that’s not as profitable as making things without enough seam allowance to alter them, and making them out of cloth so bad it falls apart if you even think of wearing it anyway.

Some of it is definitely personal choice, but I’d wager that most of it is down to the second one, with a runner-up being the first.

Facebook messenger. I was afraid people wouldn’t want to deal with using other chat apps, etc. DM’d everyone I knew with “Hey I’m leaving Facebook, I have XMPP, Signal, texting, and email, lemme know which one you want” and most people were fine giving me their phone number.

Turns out most people don’t care.

You can’t on Lemmy, but can on mbin. I saw someone else mention just post, which will work for it, but I also just have a second account on a microblogging fedi platform for that, and that’s what I’d actually recommend for it. “You don’t need multiple accounts on the fediverse” yada yards, but there are certain instances where it’s helpful to have multiple, like this one xD

Yep, though with calibre in particular you want to kind of make sure it’s locked down real good. People sniff for the ports it uses, so open calibre-web libraries get found quickly, and then will usually have some attempts at cracking.

I had mine set up as a local-only thing (could only access from my home WiFi), but from experiences with other apps that have similar crawlers, it takes about a week for them to be found. Just make sure everyone’s passwords are decent, or just share one account if it’s people you trust.

I need to look into calibre-web more. I definitely tried it, but I remember it being awkward. Might give it another go to see

Fair xD I’m wondering how much of that is a true preference for not receiving (I know one person who just. Does not, because it tickles?) and how much of that is the stereotype of straight men being bad at it, though. Could be worth putting that to a poll

I’d say 8 would be better, just because they can have a second term. Usually those are consecutive, but still

So. In my experience, places with a generic “No politics” rule tend to become Nazi bars very quickly. That’s not the case here, partly (I think) because it specifies US politics. Makes it more clear that this isn’t a place where the only genders are “Male” and “Political,” even if that kind of is the case in the US.

I think something akin to “Nothing about any current or former politician, or government entity” could be a way to allow discussions about certain parts of politics without others. In the communities (non-lemmy) I’ve run that’s the usual rule I have alongside some others that aren’t relevant here.

I would mention that word filters exist, but this post is a great example of why those don’t work very well in a lot of cases. “The daft orange lardsack” is a case where self-censorship ends up leading to word filters being less effective. It’s also a great way to showcase that you think body shaming is fine in certain circumstances. I, personally, disagree, and think that we can talk about his actions without mentioning his weight, but y’know. What do I know

He also has Pounded in the Butt by my own Podcast, a podcast where he gets people to read his stories. Hasn’t been updated in forever, but it’s still around.

Interspecies doesn’t even begin to describe it, though. When COVID first hit he released a few short stories for free, and one of them was “The Physical Manifestation of Washing my Hands Gets me Off”

Ehh, it’s a Christian holiday that got commercialized to sell shit. Much like with Christmas (though that has roots in… Just about every religion that came before it, and early Christians didn’t celebrate birthdays anyway). AFAIK Valentine’s day is an original Christian holiday to commemorate St. Valentino.

(I guess the 28% of women who describe giving it as pleasurable are each doing it more than 20 times in a month?)

From the people I know, the ones who enjoy it do end up giving oral 20+ times a month if they’re in relationships with partners who they live near enough to be giving it most nights.

Instead, I suspect that that number describes the number of times that sexually-active Americans

Wouldn’t surprise me, yeah

52% of men

Yeah, I mean only 59% of women do, that’s not that different? It’s not rounding errors levels, but still

It didn’t sound like it was just taken ones, given they said “It’s much higher among people in relationships especially new ones”

Then again, I wrote this after being awake for 10 minutes so could be misremembering. I’ll see if I can find it again later

Syncthing? Personally I just use my nextcloud server. Autosyncs every 15 or so minutes to my phone, and from PC it’s automatic.

I didn’t expect to receive such high praise on a post about blowjobs, but hey I’ll take it!

It’s… Actually kinda hard for me to make a guess. I think overall it’s probably more even than you’d expect. All things being equal (sex drive, being into your partner, etc) straight women outnumber gay men. 51% of the population are women (ish), and about 5% are gay men. Assuming everyone’s taken, and everyone has roughly the same ssxual activity, you’d be looking at around 5x the blowjobs in gay relationships (on average there will be more penises to be sucked in gay relationships than straight)

However things aren’t equal. People who’re trans are also more likely to not be straight (about 17.6% of trans people overall self-ID as straight), but that’ll skew the numbers in a lot of different directions because of surgery, and dysphoria.

I’m actually curious how heavily heterofatalism affects this, as well. A lot of straight people seem to hate their partners, though I’ve been seeing less of that ball and chain type stuff recently than I had in previous years. But also a lot more people are just single than before, so that’ll play into it.

I would say it’s also age dependent, but there’s not much of a difference. Over 40s report having sex about 69 (nice) times per year on average vs 25-34s report about 90 times a year. With retirement communities frequently being STI hotspots I’m not that surprised tbh (condoms do more than prevent pregnancy!)

Only now did I remember that we have statistics about a lot of things. Straight women give oral sex an average of 5.14 times per month. Gay men are 5.3x per month. So yeah. Gay men give fewer blowjobs overall, but more per capita, and gay coupled will have a little more than double the amount of blowjobs. Assuming about 5% of the population is gay men, and only looking at couples, we’re looking at about 1 out of every 6 blowjobs being from a gay man.

… These are the thoughts that kept me out of the good schools.

Edit: Now that I’ve been awake for more than 10 minutes I realize that the doubling of the number of blowjobs by gay men because there are 2 is prooooobably faulty logic. So it’s closer to about 10.3% of blowjobs given by gay men if we don’t forget lesbians (my own demographic, damn you, me!), and we assume a 9:1 ratio of straight women to gay men.

Or 1 million minutes ago was March 22, 2024.

1 billion minutes ago was the height of the Roman empire.

1 trillion minutes ago is a little bit before (about 100,000 years) the earliest homo erectus fossils we found

Yeah. In my case they were all poly when they happened. The one where I was a secret had the spouse, and another partner besides me. I was the secret from one of them, but not the other. Were that not my first poly relationship I almost certainly wouldn’t have gotten involved, it was… A mess.

It’s not always disgusting, first off xD Polyamory is around, though I’ve only been with… Uhh… Four? Married people, at least while they were married. A few have gotten married since.

Pretty normal, all things going, with three of them. If you mean “What’s it like to be the person someone’s cheating with” there’s a good goddam reason I refuse to be anyone’s secret. That one sucks, it’s happened once, and was a 0/10 would not recommend experience for anyone involved. The guy blamed himself after I told him, the girl had cotton candy where most people had a spine, and it wasn’t even worth it in bed.

EDIT: Four. It’s happened four times.

“What’s the difference between a million dollars and a billion dollars? About a billion dollars.”

It’s .1% of a billion, that is a rounding error

I mean… Some people will host free servers, some will be paid. Omg.lol has a fedi server, and a bunch of other stuff, and it costs $20 per year for it. It’s fine to expect users to pay you back for your time, effort, and cost???