Yeah, was almost a bit too fast for our liking, didn’t really leave us time to get used to the idea. My gfs gynecologist was really surprised when she showed up pregnant, said she had expected her in a year or so :D Nice early reminder that kids don’t care for your plans.
A vasectomy is definitely something we’re considering, but just in case the baby fever should ever hit us again, my girlfriend will be over 40 by then and that’s too old for comfort (I know plenty of women even older than that have healthy, happy babies, but still), and also we simply aren’t in a position to afford a second one :D
I’ve always been a fence sitter as well, and for the longest part of my life I was kinda certain I didn’t want any kids, but in hindsight that was mainly because the women I was with had no interest either. When I met the mother of my daughter, very early on in the relationship she straight up asked me if I could see myself as a parent at some point in the future. I said yes because that’s the truth. I could just as well not see myself as a parent, but it wasn’t a clear no.
Our daughter was born in the fifth year of our relationship. We would have loved to spend another couple of years just as the two of us, but she’s several years older than me and approaching her 40s, so her biological clock was ticking. So we sat down and had a long talk about whether we actually wanted to do this. I’ve never been the most ambitious fella out there, and if there’s an easy or comfortable way of doing something I’m likely to take it. With this topic though I didn’t want to live the rest of my life thinking in the back of my head that my kid didn’t get born because it would have been outside of my comfort zone. So we went and tried and my gf got pregnant within two months. Our daughter is 7 months now and a wonderful little drooling ball of energy and we love her to death. With all the uncertainty that comes with having a child, one thing is certain though: we don’t want a second one :D
No, the child is lost