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  • li10@feddit.uktoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml*Permanently Deleted*
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    7 months ago

    Have you previously annoyed them in some way, or had a disagreement?

    Were they in the middle of a proper conversation and might’ve felt like you butted in with a greeting?

    It sounds odd. I’d have a think about whether you’ve previously annoyed them in some way, but if not then they might just be grumpy. In which case there’s nothing to worry about, and you just do you.






  • I don’t know how much I even want from a phone these days. Just seems like things have stagnated in the mobile market for the past few years.

    I honestly don’t know what I enjoy more about my current phone compared to the one I had 10 years ago.

    They can be used for communication, payments, maps, music, YT and browsing the web. I think I’ll just get a small, cheap phone next time, as it’ll still check all those boxes.







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    1 year ago

    Hmm, okay, sounds like focusing on the bits you do end up saying is going to help.

    Maybe ask your manager or someone to give you examples of when you’re being disruptive and how to approach it differently next time.

    I know that’s a bit awkward, but if you fundamentally don’t understand what you’re doing wrong then you need external feedback.


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    1 year ago

    I also have that issue, so I try and focus on not going too far down the rabbit hole if it’s not relevant.

    If I’m speaking to my boss I’ll say:

    “This happens because of that, I’m gonna fix that”

    As opposed to:

    “What’s happening is X does Y, then Z occurs. That’s because of the A and B not being quite right, because B is blah blah blah. I thought about trying option 1, but that doesn’t work because blah, option 2 doesn’t work either because blah, but option 3 works because of blah blah blah.”

    If they don’t need that info, then you don’t need to share it.


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    1 year ago

    It sounds like you’re taking “over participating” to mean that you’re getting involved in too many conversations, when it actually sounds like you’re just dominating any conversation you get involved in.

    It doesn’t matter that you avoid 90% of conversations if you’re still disrupting any that you do get involved with.

    The key to being good in conversation is to actively listen and nudge other people to carry on talking. It sounds like you’re just waiting your turn then talking about whatever you feel like.

    I don’t have any specific advice, except that you should probably focus on what you do say, as opposed to what you don’t say, if that makes sense.