In that case, it’s probably a good idea to get mods involved or create a new account then, I suppose.

If Lemmy is a service you’ve enjoyed and you aren’t trying to hurt anyone, why let random jerks ruin it for you and chase you off? Just block them and forget they ever existed. This is the way.

Thanks. :)

I agree that our conversation was perfectly civil (which I appreciate). I did delete my posts as I didn’t feel like my opinion was appreciated in this area. No hard feelings whatsoever.

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There are a lot of reasons for this. Some people never learned how to manage their emotions or how to disagree in a mature manner. A lot of people feel frustrated, angry and powerless in their everyday lives, so being nasty to others online provides a weird sort of catharsis for them. Others simply never acquired the necessary social skills to successfully function in society to any significant degree. Still others are narcissists who derive feelings of power from making others feel small. The list goes on and on.

I’m not really sure, either. Do some Lemmy clients curate what’s in your feed based upon votes? If that’s the case, I can see people trying to manipulate that…

No, really the best example I can give is the one I’ve already made about the racist neighbor. If there isn’t a term for this sort of behavior, there needs to be one.

Both of those terms are accurate to what I’m describing. It’s like racist neighbors finding everything wrong with the upkeep of your house or how much noise your kids are making just to cover up the fact that they don’t want to live next to someone of color.

I’ve not heard of ‘sanewashing’ before. That’s an interesting one. It may be ‘gaslighting’, but I’m not sure. A fictional example of what I’m talking about would be the guy who dates a woman to get closer to her sister. Or Homer Simpson buying a bowling ball for Marge Simpson’s birthday and saying ‘Well, if you don’t want it, I know someone who could really, really use it…’ :D

There have been times in my life where I was happy but didn’t realize it until it was too late, so this checks out.