If I had to pick one, I’d have to pick The Clash.

Yeah, you totally should make a community for that if you can’t already find one.

I think that you want to do next is just start posting relevant news stories on a regular basis in order to build up some kind of audience of subscribers. RSS feeds on various website and blogs can be a good way to source news stories to post here on the fediverse, so I recommend taking some time to set up some feeds that you can check regularly.

Once you have a decent little audience, then you should be able to get some discussions going. And the community can continue to grow from there. Creativity goes a long way here.

Porn angle notwithstanding, if nothing else, this should be taken as a sign of the fragility of the Fediverse, and a warning that server communities which are only administrated by a single person (who could get hit by a bus at any time) can disappear in an instance. In order to make the Fediverse more robust against stuff like this, we really need servers and communities to have at least 2 admins with the necessary level of access for handling unforeseen circumstances. A single person going MIA randomly shouldn’t be enough to take down an entire Fediverse instance. (I saw something similar happen with kbin, when one day the site just… went down!)

Now when it comes to the porn side of this, this is also kind of bad news for Fediverse adoption since there are a lot of sex/porn/kind-related communities on Reddit, and now we are kind of without a lot of that stuff.

Call me crazy but I’d argue that masturbation and sex-positivity is actually pretty damn important to learning how to be happy alone.

Being single doesn’t me an being a monk or depriving yourself of nice things.

Take yourself and friends out to dinner and movies, buy yourself and your family nice gifts, and yes, learn how to sexually satisfy yourself too without shame and negativity.

The idea that you can’t enjoy your sexuality without a partner is kind of depressing. Sex-positivity is empowering.

There’s honestly a lot out there…

• Mastodon *
• Lemmy *
• Diaspora
• Pixelfed *
• Funkwhale
• Matrix *
• Misskey *
• Peertube *
• Loops *
• Mbin *
• Wafrn *
• Plemora
• Hubzilla
• Piefed *
• Friendica
• Bookwyrm

… and probably more that I’m not able to think of.

* I recommend all the ones with asterisks. I haven't tried most of the other ones yet.

Nothing is free. Someone is paying for hardware, electricity, internet, and man hours.

On legacy social media, the advertisers and the consumers of your data are paying.

On the fediverse, someone in the community is paying.

Dipshits spend 15 years dismissing and spreading fud about vaccines, only to beg their people to get a vaccine. Too little, too late.

Honestly, it kind of depends how well you know this person and what kind of relationship you have, but I think it’s best to take the “Yes, and…” approach.

If you like or care about this person, then definitely don’t rudely interrupt them to shut them down by telling them that you already know what they’re saying. Obviously you don’t have to pretend like you don’t know… But people want to feel like what they’re saying matters, so give them the small win of hearing them out, and then affirm them and add something to what they’re saying of you can.

So, here’s an example of what you probably shouldn’t do:

A: “So the other day I was watching a video on painting and I found out that if you mix blue and yellow you–”

B: “Green. You get green. I know that. I know everything about mixing colors. Everybody knows that.”

What would be better in most cases, would probably be something like.

A: “So the other day I was watching a video on painting and I found out that if you mix blue and yellow you get green. And mixing blue with red will give you purple.”

B: “Yeah, totally! And red and yellow gives your orange, right? And I’ve heard it’s also a good idea to have warm and cool versions of all of the primaries, so that you can get more mixing varieties.”

So, you’re both listening and affirming what the other person is saying, and then demonstrating that you know a bit about this too by adding to it. You’re not making A feel useless, stupid or unappreciated. You’re not making yourself look like a rude jerk or a know-it-all.

Obviously it depends heavily on who you’re talking to and what your relationship is. (Some people who are friends love to talk shit to each other for fun, and in that kind of relationship you probably don’t need to be as careful about hurting the other person’s feelings.)

Generally speaking, though, it’s good to remember that a conversation isn’t just about you exchanging information with another person, and so it’s important to consider how other people feel when you talk to them, in my opinion.