You used the term “NATO stan” and call my response a cliche? I could tell you were a .ml user without even looking at your account.

The irony is entertaining. Thanks for the laugh, tanky

User instance checks out

Just a heads up, people should be wary of playtron to a degree: the CEO is a guy named Kirt McMaster. Anyone from the Android enthusiast community may know him as the guy who convinced the creator of CyanogenMod to incorporate (becoming Cyngn) and then drove the company into the ground chasing skinning and theming revenue, and wouldn’t even allow the community to keep the cyanogen brand (they had to rebrand it to LineageOS)

Kirt sucks. He’s a terrible leader and a terrible businessperson. I’m sure there are plenty of great people involved in playtron but with him at the helm of the company I am not expecting it to end well

It’s literally a multiplayer competitive shooter. That’s the game.

I’m an effort to get you an answer that isn’t dismissive:

1. Youth indoctrination, social conformity, and cultural isolation. If your parents, friends, and most of your community tells you something is true, you are unlikely to challenge it for a variety of reasons including trust (most of what they’ve taught you works for your daily life), tribal identity, etc

2. People naturally fear death, and one coping strategy for the existential fear of death is to convince yourself that the death of your body is not the end of your existence. Science does not provide a pathway to this coping strategy so people will accept or create belief systems that quell that fear, even in the face of contradictory evidence. Relieving the pressure of that fear is a strong motivator.

3. Release of responsibility. When there is no higher power to dictate moral absolutes, we are left feeling responsible for the complex decisions around what is or isn’t the appropriate course of action. And that shit is complicated and often anxiety inducing. Many people find comfort in offloading that work to a third party.

That it would be viewed as awkward and unwelcome by the other participants. Consent is key, yo

I go for the hug when I see friends I haven’t seen in a long time, or when I’m parting ways with someone I know I won’t see for a while. But it’s definitely not a regular occurrence

No, it’s not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were. I don’t know if I’d go for full on snuggling but I come from a physically affectionate family and in general wish people were more comfortable with that kind of thing

That’s actually a GREAT idea.

Server admins should be able to opt-in to pulling in the top N posts per hour/day/week from connected instances. Could even have an option like “if a community shows up more than X times this way, subscribe the server to that community”, and then toss all that stuff into Discover section or something.

While you may be correct, that was my experience. As a new user, I joined two Lemmy instances, was unsatisfied with the full feed on both, and said “screw it, I’m going to the biggest server”.

The problem with telling people they can fetch the missing comms are threefold:

1. It becomes a perpetual maintenance task. New communities are being created all the time and I don’t want to have to reference other servers’ feeds regularly to stay up to date on the newest stuff. I might as well just be on that other server

2. Part of the joy of the firehose is seeing when some completely obscure community has a wildly popular post that one time because it’s extra funny or shocking or whatever. Those posts just won’t make it to most smaller servers.

3. It’s an “unknown unknowns” problem. Sometimes you know what it is that you don’t know and can go find it. But often I don’t know which things I don’t know, so I can’t seek it out to add to my server. The beauty of a big server is that I don’t have to do that legwork or even think about it.

All it takes is one user on the server subscribing to the Western Spotted Bull Frogs community for me to see it when they have a post blow up. The chances of one such user being on my server go way up here on lemmy.world. I’m sure there are smaller servers that are “good enough” in that regard. But why would I bother when I have what I want right here?

Not trying to be argumentative, just calling out what I see as a fundamental truth about Lemmy, compared to other fediverse applications. Like, on mastodon a big server’s fedirated feed is more or less unreadable. That makes smaller servers appealing as it helps prioritize what makes it into the feed. On Lemmy, the voting system does that prioritization, removing one of the big reasons to avoid larger servers in the first place :)

I tried a smaller Lemmy server first and it didn’t meet my needs.

I used reddit in two specific but different ways:

1. About a dozen subreddits that I would visit individually. Small Lemmy instances work fine for this. Just subscribe to the ones I care about

2. Browsing r/all, taking in whatever was popular at any given moment. This only works on big Lemmy instances with wildly diverse federation.

I love the firehose of “what bizarre things bubbled to the top today? Oh snap, there’s a scandal in the professional bowling community. This Farscape meme is hilarious even without context. Wow, look at that crazy picture of an owl riding another owl riding a bear” or whatever.

There was never enough content on small Lemmy servers to satisfy that itch. But scrolling the main feed on lemmy.world is good enough

Gonna disagree with you about the quality of Mando; it’s just an incredibly different type of show. I feel the exact opposite of you: I thought the first season was meh until the end, and the show has continued to get better from there (with some individual episodes that were crap).

For the record, Andor is by far my favorite piece of contemporary Star Wars media. It’s not even close.

What I’m saying is, not every show or movie has to be well received by every fan.

Hell, I even enjoyed Obi-Wan for what it was. A sad waste of potential? Totally. But some of the things it set out to do were done well (specifically, showing Obi-Wan’s state of mind during that time period)

I don’t expect Mando to press the same emotional buttons as Andor, and I don’t expect Andor to make me go “whoaaaaa awesome lightsaber duel!” the way Ahsoka did. Let them be different. We don’t have to tear down anything that doesn’t fit our image of the perfect star wars show

Oh hey, I recognize you. Genuinely and truly, thank you for your years of service. I run a mastodon community these days for the same reasons, and I can only imagine how frustrating and eventually heartbreaking it must have been for long-time reddit mods to slowly get screwed out of the homes they’d built for themselves and others.

True true

The whole show is pure comedy gold.

You know, Colbert deserves every ounce of his success but it will always make me a little sad that him getting The Colbert Report effectively led to the end of Harvey Birdman. The show couldn’t survive the loss of his voice for both Phil and Reducto.

I haven’t had bread for months. I’ve had a wallear for a Kaiser roll or somethin’ starchy. Oyster crackers. Anything! A sammich without bread isn’t a sammich! It’s meat with mustard on your hands!

Stares in American

Yeah, you told me a sad story in a thread about other people. You turned it into a conversation about yourself instead of thinking about the perspective of others

You’re the one not listening. I’ve been talking about other people this entire time and all you can think about is yourself and how hard it was for you and your bad memories.

I’m doing fine. I don’t need your support. I’m not asking for your support. Not once have I told you that you should support me.

I’m trying to tell you that compassion is free. You aren’t being asked to take care of anyone. You’re being asked not to place the blame at the feet of people who are suffering, and not to point at people who struggle and call them sick because “only an unwell person would do that.”

You sound really narcissistic. Even your efforts to come off as supportive were performative and came back around to “but I said the thing, so I’m the good guy”.

I don’t think you’re being aggressive. I don’t think you’re being mean. I don’t think you’re angry or hateful.

I think you’re selfish.

Muting you now so I don’t keep seeing your self-pitying excuses for why you should shun those who struggle with mental health. It’s really starting to make me sick

This will be my last response:

Going through that? It’s not something I’m “going through”. It’s a condition I’ve had almost all my life and it’s well managed for a long time now. I’m not asking for your support. Just your understanding. And that’s what you don’t get. Compassion costs you nothing, but you can’t even do that

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If someone tells me they have something mentally wrong with them

You know, I was gonna reply to you with a bunch of information on how to help people and be understanding, patient, and compassionate. But then I read this line and I lost all interest. I’m sorry you’ve gone through what you have. But this is callous and heartless. Don’t project your extreme situation onto the common mental health challenges of others. I hope nobody with mental health challenges - you know, simple stuff like depression or minor trauma responses - ever comes to rely on or trust you. They’ll just have their heart broken.

Don’t be surprised when your children, spouse, family, or friends do not trust you or share their struggles with you. They will doubtlessly fear that you’ll abandon them in a heartbeat once they know this terrible trait of yours

Shame on you for painting all people who struggle with mental health with a single brush.

And since I have my mental health issues (MDD) I’ll assume “you just can’t” and end our conversation here, for both our sakes

P.S. My wife’s best friend when through a rough patch and came out of it with a similar attitude. She tried sharing one of her struggles with PTSD with him, like she used to, and he told her “I need a break from you, you just bring me down all the time” and I saw what that did to her. Made me sick to my stomach