Big Pasta is at it again!

Honestly I just browse all and comment here and there, nothing too specific

That’s surprising to me. I’ve had the opposite experience, only encountering one butthead (who had plenty of downvotes).

I hope your experience improves, I rather like it here

She could just be learning about autonomy and figuring out ways to express that. My kid (4, just as stubborn as his papa) still does this from time to time, and it’s frustrating - I just remind him that holding it in can make things hurt, and that we want to avoid accidents. Forming the habit of going potty before bedtime is paramount, don’t let that go.

Alternatively, I wonder if she had a particularly bad/painful experience and is now scared something like that might happen again. If this sounds plausible, and you and your partner haven’t seen it, maybe try asking the daycare if she has tried using the potty and if there were negative experiences.