southsamurai

Legit, I saw one break once with a patient just leaning on it with one hand to reach a cabinet above the toilet.

It wasn’t really catastrophic, but if a 200lb dude leaning against one with only part of their weight can crack the ceramic, there’s no way standing on one is at all acceptable.

I’ve got something long and hard for stars.

It’s a telescope.

It’s a social more, nothing more ;)

In other words, it doesn’t matter what you swear by, it’s the open swearing that matters in terms of legality. See, the oath is what makes perjury prosecution “acceptable”. When a witness is sworn in, the process isn’t so much about them actually promising to tell the truth as it is a warning to them that truth is expected and will be enforced.

Yeah, historically, there’s more to it than that, but it boils down to everyone involved knowing that truth is expected, and lying comes with consequences (well, if you get caught at it, and can’t avoid those consequences in some way. The system ain’t perfect at its best, and is rarely at its best).

Swearing on a bible is just tradition based on centuries of christians and christianity being in power. You can opt to “affirm” instead, giving an non religious oath that is just a binding.

But, in any real terms, an oath isn’t necessary to begin with. When the system/state/government/people have the power to punish you for lying, they don’t even really have to notify you that lying will come with consequences. Doing so is a nicety that at least prevents anyone from being able to say they didn’t know they couldn’t lie. Not that trying it in the absence of an oath would be worth spit, but it saves time.

But having an expectation of truth under duress is a cultural thing. And it can be a form of duress. You can be compelled to appear and give testimony, with consequences got refusing. In other situations, being under duress can be a defense against a charge, though the standard for what degree of threat serves to meet that criteria is pretty steep. But it’s an understood thing that you aren’t supposed to lie during legal proceedings. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it certainly does make it easier to have a degree of conformity to the truth among people that might otherwise lie.

Mildly?

My mental health homie, full on coma inducing exhaustion wouldn’t be unusual (well, it’s hyperbolic but you get the point).

There is very little more taxing than the kind of intensive wringer that a serious therapy session can be. Even less challenging sessions can leave people numb, wiped, or otherwise just burnt out.

If you’re doing the work, therapy will at some point be stressful. At the very least, needing nap or a cuddle is totally normal

A few ways you do it.

First is for bigger cukes only, really. You cut it in half first. Seems like it isn’t answering what you actually asked, but there is an upper limit to how big a slice can get before it’s too big. So once a cuke is much bigger than maybe an inch and a half (a little under 4 cm) wide, cut it in half first.

Second is to sacrifice a slice length wise. Take your knife, cut a ribbon off of one side,and you’ll have a flat part thru not only reduces/prevents rolling slices, it also makes the job easier. It’s a little less pretty maybe, but effective.

Third is to slice at an angle. The rounds then fall over before they can roll. It’s also visually appealing, if maybe not better than standard slices.

Fourth, use a barrier. Some damp paper towels (or cloth ones) placed on the edge of your cutting board will stop the slices from going past. Yeah, you can use dry ones, but they tend to move easier, so paper towels will blow away (and cloth ones get knocked away by errant elbows.) But any barrier will do tbh. A long handled spoon, your honing rod, whatever.

Fifth, use a jig. I’m not aware of any brands, but there’s veggie cutting jigs with even slice sizes. They have the side benefit of holding things like carrots, cukes, or zucchini and keeping the slices in place. Haven’t used one in ages, so I’d have to go searching for a link, and you can do that just as easily; but if you can’t find anything, holla back and I’ll see what I can find. But you can make your own with a little ingenuity and access to a band saw or even the right hand tools, but the plastic ones are cheaper and lighter.

Sixth is using a damp towel on your cutting surface. I wouldn’t do it, but if you pay attention to what you’re doing, you won’t fuck up the towel and it does work. Has to be damp though, something about that makes the skin grab better than on a dry one.

Seventh is using your hands and speed. If you’re feeding the cuke along with the ol’ claw finger technique, and slicing/chopping fast, they don’t get a chance to roll.

As an alternative to that, the eighth I’m aware of is to partially slice through on your first pass, then come back and finish. The slices don’t roll. Won’t work on more fibrous veggies, but stuff like cukes or zucchini will stay in place just fine. Takes longer though.

Tbh though, I’ve always had more trouble with carrots, even with very thin knives that don’t wedge much. Which, that helps too, btw. If you pick up a cheap Kiwi nakiri (kiwi is a cheap brand of stamped steel knives, but they rock for some jobs better than the fanciest and most expensive knives. Try one with onions and you’ll see what I mean for sure), you’ll have way less wedging, so there’s less force applied along the side of the slice, meaning they don’t roll as much.

Shit, you could probably just push the end of the cuke/zucchini against something weighty as you slice and as long as you don’t push hard, it would at least reduce the force the slices would roll with, meaning they wouldn’t go far.

Sharp knives also reduce the problem because they go through with less force, leading to less motion as the slices part from the body of the veg.

Legit though, doesn’t matter what you do, you’ll have some escapees with thick slices. Cukes are much rounder than most similar shaped veggies, and often have smoother skin. So they roll easier than most. Like I said, I had more trouble with carrots, until I got my techniques down and knives that let me do the job smoothly. A decent knife with a thin profile, kept sharp and used appropriately to the design of the knife tends to apply the force in a way that slices fall laterally rather than roll. Plus, if you slice conservatively, the force you’re applying across the veg doesn’t have enough energy to get the slice moving much. That’s easier with a well maintained knife.

Edit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKwE1jHNEww

This is an adaptive system, but the jig they have on it is the first example I found.

Fuck no

Every paycheck for twenty plus years, I calmly and without complaint saw taxes and fica taken out of each check because that’s how you have a social safety net.

I sure as fuck didn’t pay in because I could afford it, I paid in because it’s mandatory.

So you, me, whoever, is 100% justified in using the social safety net we all paid and pay into because that’s what it’s for in the first place.

Never, ever feel guilty about it brougham.

You don’t cure shy. You can’t.

Only thing you can do is offer support and give them the freedom to explore with the safety that good support can bring.

She’s not going to have trouble making friends. She’ll be selective about who she considers a friend. That’s not a bad thing. We all have to surround ourselves with people that match us and/or balance us.

That balance is what you encourage. Finding her own path to friends she, she feels connected to and safe with. Once she finds them in her own way, in her own time, you provide the opportunities for them to spend time together so that those friendships grow and develop.

Being slow to warm up, being shy, it’s not a bad thing. It’s just one way of experiencing life.

It might make some kind of sense if there was anything close to feature parity, but at this stage in development, it just isn’t worth paying for at all.

Matrix doesn’t measure up to discord, signal, or telegram in terms of what you can do with it. If it’s going to be paid, it damn well needs to offer something useful for the money, not just lifting arbitrary limits.