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  • Different use cases.

    Fats that are solid ( or at least not kept liquid) are not directly comparable to oils. They fulfill a different function in baked goods. In particular, pie crust with vegetable oil would fail totally. It wouldn’t hold up.

    Mind you, if you don’t object to hydrogenated oils, they can do the job. Yay margarine? But you can’t just dump 10 grams of canola into your biscuits and expect the results to look, taste, or feel like a biscuit. You’d get something, but it wouldn’t be the same.



  • Aight, ima casually address the disparity in information. I’m in pain, so I’m not fucking with digging up links or reverifying stuff I’ve looked up a dozen times in the past, so keep that in mind regarding details.

    So, is there a difference?

    Maybe. There’s really limited study done on the matter. This means that, depending on where you go looking for information about the distribution of trans people, you’ll see either that the numbers are roughly the same (with mtf, ftm, and nb each being roughly a third of the trans population), or that there are roughly 2 trans women for each trans man, the most commonly given ratio of 2:1. I have seen it expressed as more 1.5:1 or as high as 3:1, but 2:1 is what I ran into most often when looking for info.

    If there is a difference, there are multiple probable factors.

    The big one is that there still isn’t a difference in occurrence, only in reporting. This means that it’s possible that the numbers are still roughly the same, but that trans men aren’t always speaking up and/or being counted.

    But there are suggestions that the underlying in utero changes that create trans people (and supposedly other variants of the human gender and sexuality spectrum) may simply occur more often in pregnancies where the fertilized egg is XY. That may is a big one, it should be MAY! There’s a lot still unknown about what all variations can occur in utero vs being hard coded, so I can’t pretend there’s scientific certainty about how trans people develop vs cis people.

    Now, beyond that it could also be social/cultural. It is often more acceptable for a woman to present in culturally “masculine” ways, so individuals may feel that they don’t need to do anything beyond that for their personal path. It is unusual for men to be accepted for presenting in culturally “feminine” ways, and thus trans women may need to do more than some trans men do, including actually declaring themselves trans rather than quietly passing (which is why is possible it’s purely a reporting issue).

    And yes, as much as I hate to bring up passing since passing isn’t mandatory to be your self, it’s necessary to mention it. It isn’t even a term I like, it just feels shitty to claim that anyone gets to decide what is and isn’t the “correct” presentation of a gender. But for this purpose, it’s the one that’ll need the least explanation.

    Anyway, there are trans men that can both be satisfied with, and pass with no more than changing their name and manner of dress. This is also possible among trans women, but less often as far as anything I’ve seen covering this subject has said. And it is possible that the number of trans women that aren’t counted among trans women by virtue of passing is high enough that it would skew the ratio back to higher. But it is, again, often brought up as a possible explanation for any numeric imbalances.

    The other factor I’ve run across is that trans men may be less aware of being trans, in part because of being more free to engage in traditionally masculine pursuits with less social stigma. By being able to freely live in ways that “feel” right to the person, less dissonance occurs and thus the need to discover one’s transness is delayed or even negated. The dysphoria may never reach a point where it drives the person to transition in any way, they just do “guy stuff” and continue with their birth name and assigned gender, thus being uncounted. This is actually different from the kind of life aforementioned where the person does transition, but passes and remains uncounted.

    That’s the stuff I’ve run across in conversation and reading over the years. First in trying to understand the trans experience better, to internalize it so I could better empathize. Then out of personal curiosity about the medical side of things, which ties into the sociological and psychological factors. I can’t be arsed to go link digging though, as my initial disclaimer said, so if you quote any of this, be aware of that.


  • I’m not at the point where this outweighs the reasons I picked mullvad yet. And the other cofounder’s statement does at least give me hope that it might work itself out in a way I can accept before my current term is finished.

    That being said, I’m not sure I can give money to the company when someone is profiting from that money and spending part of it on a political organization that expressly espouses a stance I believe to be harmful and dangerous. And it isn’t like you can pirate a VPN, so it differs significantly from when actors or musicians do stupid shit.

    That being said, I also don’t think that using mullvad would be something other people would be obligated to avoid just because the CEO donated to a small and shitty political party. By itself, it isn’t something so bad that it’s possible to point to a customer and do more than inform them of the donation and maybe give them links to see for themselves that it’s a shitty party. Or, at least that it’s a party with some really shitty platforms.

    But the guy needs to show a major shift in how he donates before I’ll renew.





  • Shit man, I dealt with anxiety and depression for maybe ten years doing mostly hospice/end of life care. Acting is a difficult profession (seriously, it is) in a lot of ways, but it’s mostly controlled. They have schedules, and the actors rarely have to deal with the crises of making the shoot happen (except the ones silly enough to try and direct or produce lol).

    Any job can be done with moderately controlled anxiety. The only question is how long, at what price?

    Since those folks get paid way better than I did wiping asses and moving bodies, I suspect they can call their therapist or whoever during a major anxiety event, and can afford the usual meds to help ease them along.

    Musicians are similar, once they’re big enough to do big tours. They have managers and assistants to help with the most stressful things outside of the performance itself. So they only have to worry about part of it.

    Besides, I dunno if you’ve ever tried and performance of any sort, but it’s a different kind of fear. Yeah, stage fright exists, and everyone stresses about doing well, but people that pursue it as a job get a bigger internal reward out of it than a filthy casual would. So the payoff of the stress is higher. Like, for me, I’d never be able to do theater with any regularity because I don’t get that joy from it. But someone that’s top tier and doing it for a living definitely get a big dump of dopamine and other neurotransmitters from it. People think I’m fucking crazy for some of the martial arts shit I used to do, but it fulfilled me, so the price was worth it. Same thing for them



  • It’s not an antenna.

    The design around the oreo name is the same as the Nabisco logo. An oval with a cross on top.

    Now, there’s some disagreement over why the design is what it is. The got that redesigned the cookie has one story, Nabisco has theirs, and then there’s the fringe symbolism crowd that points to some kind of quasiconspiracy with ties to the Knights Templar (with the degree of it being some kind of woowoo deep secret varying on who it is talking about it)

    Basically though, it’s supposed to be similar to things that represent quality. The designer said that he was inspired by old illuminated manuscripts made by monks in Europe before printing. Basically; I’m paraphrasing because I can’t be arsed to look it up again.

    The antenna is also said to be a kind of cross, as are the little flowery things in the circle around the oreo symbol. But Nabisco was using that oval and cross thing before they made oreos; it’s still part of their logo. So, whatever the reason for that design, it likely applies to the cookie as a reflection of that


  • Pissed out of a window rather than walk ten feet to the bathroom.

    In fairness, I had the flu, and was a teenager. Feeling like hammered vulture shit, with a window right there and open anyway? No way was I getting out of bed. The window was just barely above the top of the mattress, so all I had to do was roll over, kinda prop up, and let 'er rip.

    Surprisingly, not only did it not go horribly wrong, but the little forethought I had with a fever that high managed to prevent any drips from being a problem. Well, a problem then. Still had to wash the towel later, and that left me without a clean towel for fever sweats, but I had bandanas I could use for that.

    Look, I was creeping into dangerous fever levels lol. Not the best set of decisions, but it worried out in the end


  • Mostly, yeah, but then again genuinely funny ones were always rare.

    Worse (in terms of sitcoms as a genre) they almost never stand up to time. And that’s where some of the older ones have an advantage. Survivor bias. The shitty ones aren’t in syndication any more. So we only see maybe the top ten percent of all of them with any regularity.

    But it is damn hard to come up with the right combo of writers, cast, and zeitgeist. Look at the Dick van Dyke show as an example. Some of the best comedic actors in the business all in one place, with the best writers or the era, making a show that is about a situation that’s damn near immortal because it focused on core segments of life. Because of that, even the less acceptable humor (and it never went bad) is easy to shrug off.

    Since the executives in charge production are a product of decades of cynicism and money only thinking (it was almost always money first, but that is different), they take no risks, and want mostly reheated dreck. That’s never a good foundation for comedy. It has to happen by accident when that constrained.

    That being said, it does happen from time to time. While I’m not a sitcom fan, and not into it, always sunny manages to work for most people because they’re willing to keep riding absurdity so that they don’t need a real sense of continuity. There was the office (which, again, isn’t my thing) that was one of those perfect storms of on-screen and off talent being allowed to go ham in a situation that is damn near universal in scope for its target area. Even if you haven’t been stuck in an office, you likely know someone that has. It makes the jokes hit better, and the ones that don’t can get carried by the cast’s talent.

    But, yeah, I don’t think the current era is good for sitcoms. The old networks are running scared and chasing an old paradigm. The steamers are past the point of throwing money and seeing what sticks. The audience is spread out even more than the cable dominated era. It’s hard to justify a non proven formula, and formulas don’t work as well as they used to



  • Acetylcholine.

    There’s plenty of things that can trigger it being dumped into your system. It’s a neurotransmitter, and works throughout the body like most of them do.

    One of the things that triggers it is eating. You eat, it gets released. It gets released and fairly quickly hits the receptors that are open to it.

    One of those receptors in the gut then increases bowel/intestinal motility.

    Thus, you wake up, and your body starts pumping out fresh chemicals. You eat, and the chemicals related to that crank up. Then, poop happens.

    There’s a shit ton of things besides eating that can get the job done, but it’s extremely common for a post prandial poop to pop.

    Me? IBS has fucked my shit up for ages, and I can usually time when that first rumble will hit after I start eating. Fifteen to twenty minutes. It isn’t always urgent as that’s determined by a wide range of factors, butt it’ll definitely hit in that time range if there’s no stimulants involved (and I’m real sparing with caffeine). So you aren’t alone at all :)



  • I don’t really argue much any more. Or debate tbh.

    If I’m confident I’m correct about a subject, it’s way less hassle to just shrug and say “okay” and let it go. If I’m right, it’ll prove out over time, and I won’t feel like a jackass for trying to prove I’m right via arguing. If I’m not, then that will too, and I won’t feel like a jackass for trying to convince someone of something via arguing.

    Mind you, that all assumes that “argument” implies an attempt to change someone’s mind about something while they try to change yours, whether the exchange is heated or not. Some people don’t use the word like that, and mean more that two people are exchanging insults to some degree or another (which is just a fight to me).

    But, back when I was prone to being willing to try and have my facts and/or opinions “win”, I still wasn’t prone to bringing it back up. For one, for me to “lose” an argument when I genuinely felt I was correct in my information meant I had just gotten sick of trying to explain whatever it was in the face of blind, stubborn argumentative people. Because that’s the only time I argued. So I would typically not be willing to engage with them again, and certainly not on the same subject.

    Now, a friendly debate? Sure, I’d go back with new information, and present it in a friendly way. I’d do the same if it turned out I was wrong on a point of fact.

    But, for real, I learned a long time ago that arguments over opinion are pointless to begin with. They never do anything beneficial for the relationship two people have, friends, family, whatever. It’s only facts that are worth trying to convince someone about. They can form whatever opinion of facts they want, and I’ll be free to decide if that opinion is so bad that I can’t interact with them or not. But the opinion itself? Never worth arguing over imo.



  • Other than two windows and one door, we did that back a while. The one door isn’t a factor since it’s off a porch that has a door that is sealed. The one window is in a wall that looks out into that room lol. That room started as a porch, then got closed in. The other is a big window with just old school panes. Sealed around that as best as possible, but it is what it is.

    This house hit 100 recently. It’s leaky all over. We’ve been chasing little things over the years, and it’s better than it used to be. Way better lol. I need to drag it ass in the attic and see what else I can do, but the ass I need to drag is old and crippled up lol. And that means fixed income that’s disgustingly low, so hiring someone is out if it isn’t an emergency.

    But, yeah, I do need to go around the stuff I canreach and patch things up.