That’s what happens if MBAs run the show.

You need really small instances for that to do something. The issue here is not only mega instances, but more curcially mega communities.

If people on your instance subscribe to the top 50 communities you already have more than 50% of the whole lemmy traffic on your instance. And 50 subscriptions isn’t all that much for even a single user.

And mega communities is kinda the whole point of any reddit-like service. The really cool thing about reddit is that no matter how obscure the topic, there’s a subreddit for it with experts in the field. Lemmy is still lacking that for most topics, but that would be where a real Reddit alternative would want to end up.

If you have a look at reddit, they have over 1000 subreddits with over a million subscribers each. Every single one of these subreddits has around 200x the traffic of all of Lemmy combined. So if Lemmy were to grow to Reddit levels and a single user subscribes to a single community like that, your whole instance is cooked.

It’s a worthy and huge endeavor.

I think the only somewhat sustainable way to get around the moderation problem is to get rid of storing a copy of everything.

That way you don’t have incriminating data on your server and then you just mark every external community as “out of bounds of my moderation, there be dragons, go at your own risk” and call it a day.

If a Lemmy/ActivityPub alternative was designed from the ground up a decent option would be to limit federation to a single-signon and private messages. In that case when you visit a remote community, the client directly goes to that remote community to fetch data from there.

Basically like a set of separate forums with a federated login.

That would solve the “everything copies everything” issue and the “everyone has to moderate everything” issue as well. If someone posts illegal crap on a remote instance, that data stays on that remote instance and you aren’t responsible for them. And the users can themselves decide what communities on what instances fit to what they want to look at.

That would mean that if an instance goes down their communities do as well, but that’s (at least to me) less of an issue than the current state. It’s not like these zombie communities work fine right now. With the source instance being down, federation is gone and thus posting on these instances means there’s only a fraction of the audience left.

Yeah, with the current “everything replicates everything” model Lemmy is close to the workable limit of users.

Currently, there are roughly 50k monthly active users on Lemmy, and the hosting cost is approaching unsustainability for hobby instances with a decent amount of users. Monetizing Lemmy is close to impossible with donations being the only real revenue stream, so there’s pretty much no business case for anything but a hobby instance.

If for some reason even just 1% of Reddit users were to migrate to Lemmy (that would be ~10mio monthly active users) Lemmy would instantly crumble under that load no matter how many new instances would be added since every instance stores everything.

Moderation would also all but collapse since each instance needs to moderate everything as well, due to legal reasons. (If someone posts something illegal on a remote instance and it gets replicated to your instance and you don’t delete it, you are legally liable for it since it’s stored on your server.)

The design choice to hard-bind an instance to a host name still baffles me. It’s an incredibly brittle choice. It makes it pretty much impossible to ever move an instance to another hostname.

Sadly, the fediverse is full of amateurish design choices because it was designed by hobbyists who apparently don’t have anything but a very basic understanding of distributed systems.

Also the concept of “Every instance needs to keep a full copy of everything” and “Every instance has to re-moderate everything to not be legally liable for illegal content” is really bad for scalability.

Thanks for the explanation!

Tbh, AI isn’t even the biggest issue here. The decline happened much earlier and like in pretty much any industry it happened when the MBAs took over top-level management.

What is this?

Still, I am totally on the dev’s side.

He specifically switched the license because people kept sending angry support requests for badly done distro repackages that didn’t work properly.

Too many entitled users think that “customer is king” also applies when they didn’t pay a cent for the software they use.

It’s a common problem that FOSS developers get burnt out with idiots demanding support thinking that the developer somehow owes them something, when in reality he’s giving away hundreds or thousands of hours of work for free.

So now someone giving away hundreds of hours of work for free is entitled because he doesn’t want to provide it with the license YOU, who likely contributed nothing at all to the project, prefer.

Wow.

You did not read what you wrote before calling someone else entitled, did you?

Tbh, I don’t think that Candy Crush is an extreme example. On mobile this is more the norm than an outlier.

And even on PC, there are far worse examples, like games that allow you to resell lootbox content, which is literal gambling. It’s a scratch card with extra steps.

Literally the only point for microtransactions to exist (versus e.g. expansions/DLCs) is to split up the cost into smaller chunks so that players lose track of how much they actually spent.

“I’m not paying €50 for a handful of cosmetic items” becomes “I’m just paying 20 gems for this one cool item, and then I’m going to do it again and again and again.”

The very concept of microtransactions is to hide the cost to manipulate and exploit players.

Otherwise they’d just release an expansion or a large DLC with all the content in it for a fair price.

Remember how everyone laughed at the horse armor? Well, that’s standard now.

Have you ever watched someone play Candy Crush? It’s full-on manipulative. “Oh, soo close! You almost managed to beat this level! Don’t let this chance escape! Just pay 5 gems and you can continue!”

There are certainly different kinds of players and some are more or less easily manipulated. But somebody who manages to stay rational wouldn’t play Candy Crush eitherway. If you tell them beforehand that they have to pay €200 to play this stupid minigame they’d ask you what you are smoking. But with microtransactions it’s quite easy to draw money out of somebody’s pockets.

People like that have as much agency over their microtransaction spending as a smoker has over their next cigarette or a gambling addict has over playing the next bet. The mechanics of microtransactions are often close to identical to the mechanics of gambling.

The advantage of self-hosted WoW is that you can cheat to your heart’s content.

So no more grinding if you don’t want to.

You keep ignoring the question. The question is not “is it legal” but “should it be legal”.

Because petitions are about changing laws. They are the process through which the population can ask for a law change.

I have no idea why you keep bringing up copyright. Copyright is not a magical “get out of jail free” card that excempts you from following the law. It literally has nothing to do with the discussion at hand, same as whether this is legal right now or not. Your comments are constantly offtopic.

It’s not so much of a dad-vs-mom thing, tbh.

For me it was super easy to connect to our kids especially when they were tiny. I loved carrying them around all the time, the cuddling, them being as cute as they are. My wife really hated being touched all the time and she couldn’t connect with them at all in the beginning, especially with our second one.

I started having more and more trouble with the kids when they got old enough to have a mind of their own, especially with our first kid who was and is much more than just a handful. My wife gets along much better with the kids once they are able to talk and able to take more care of themselves.

Some people just connect with the small ones better, some can handle them better when they get bigger. Some then start having issues with them in puberty, while some really manage to connect at that time. It’s not a gender thing at all.

From what I read your wife suffers from depression, correct? From what I read between the lines, she already did before she got pregnant, correct?

And considering how experienced you seem with taking over and keeping everything together, that’s probably what you have been doing for years already?

That’s quite a common pattern, and it’s one that can only remain stable for a certain amount of time. She’s depending a lot on you, you pick up the slack and carry her burden. That works well without kids when the only responsibilities are to spend enough time at work, but it becomes very troublesome with a small kid, where the workload is too much even for two fully-functioning adults.

This can drive you in a kind of caregiver burnout. You go beyond your limits for too long, and after some time you just don’t have the power to continue that way and smile through it. Depression spreads and good things diminish. That’s at least what I read between your lines.

This is the point where you need to get help. Find a better distribution of work with your wife. Rope in relatives (your mom seems to be invested) and get them to help you out, especially in these crucial first few months.

Pumping milk means that the baby isn’t necessarily tethered to your wife, so you can also get your mom to watch the kid for an evening or so, so that you two can get some rest.

Considering getting therapy yourself.

Try to recover before you burn out completely.

As for the feelings towards your child, don’t force it, give it time.

You can totally host something on carrier-grade NAT using techniques like NAT hole punching.

Couldn’t this prove very troublesome in combination with carrier grade nat?

Judging by the fact that I have never heard of the game or the company before, I guess it’s tiny and obscure, meaning it would have either been completely ignored by hackers or some hacker would completely flatten it with hacks.

Probably nothing about that has hanged by open sourcing it.

Yeah, especially in peace time. When war heats up and resources get scarce, you use the cheapest thing that does the job. But in peace time you feed your military contractors to keep them happy and to keep them researching and developing so you don’t lose out on modern technology development.

(For clarification, with “war time” I mean “being in a war that actually threatens the country”. The US hasn’t been in a war like that for a very long time. They’ve essentially being in “peace time” while having military training and testing facilities in the middle east.