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Is it wrong to want to choose my friends?

No, it is fine and good. You get to pick friends, that’s the point. Obviously this has some fluctuation, but they should overall be a positive value in your life.

How do you balance doing what makes you happy with maintaining friendships, especially if your happiness and your current friend group don’t line up?

Do what you like and make friends who do that too. Your friends should be people you have fun hanging out with. If the activity is a prerequisite then that’s that.

Any thoughts, advice, or personal experiences would be really helpful.

I do rock climbing, met several fun people at the gym, we climb together now. Good friends. Also took a dance class, meet a couple friends there. I do what I’m interested in and those interests being friends and connections. You can always fall back on the interests/hobbies for activities.

No reason to maintain a friendship simply because of the label/category of “friend” because that’s not really a meaningful relationship.

I’ve changed my mind, I’m ok with kink shaming in some cases

Windows is already occupying your hardware and network with “telemetry”. I would be surprised if telemetry overhead alone was all that was needed to burden modern hardware and yet when i boot into windows those fans never shut up.

DDG performance has dropped for me. I use a mix of their app and Firefox loaded with a searxng.

https://paulgo.io/

Works like old Google, No ads, tends to reduce SEO sloop that DDG is susceptible to.

Saaame. I feel like my 20’s were my 40’s and my 30’s are healing my inner 20yo but in a less caustic way.