This article really struck a chord with me, since I’m increasingly worried about my children growing up in a world that is fundamentally different from the one I grew up in. It’s incredibly hard to make sure that children are not confronted with disturbing imagery and all the propaganda that is circulating online without the fully developed critical thinking of an educated adult. How do you go about making sure your children become responsible adults online?
easy. talk to them.
if that doesn’t work, take it away from them.
“but they’ll just do it at their friends house” cool, you’re grounded.
“now they just do it at school.” cool, I’ll buy ad space on the platform and target the school with wanted posters with their picture on it. any student that can send me picture proof of them using the platform will get a reward. maybe even give away more of their stuff. know anybody who wants an Xbox?
“now your kid hates you.” cool, I’m their dad not their buddy. it’s my job to make sure they are protected and capable of understanding the risks of their actions. if they want to rebel they need to understand there are repercussions.
You should really read the article.
It agrees with you in general (and so do I), but the concrete advices are a bit more appropriate for when, inevitably, the kids disobey.
I know you were exaggerating, but humiliating them or resorting to denunciation might just hurt them in the long run.
I’m sorry but this is awful advice. Bordline psychotic with the shaming them at school line. Paying friends to be snitches? Like i really hope this is satire.
Sounds like my parents. So forgive me if you’re joking. You just end up becoming someone your kids circumvent and not someone they come to for help.
Teaching a kid “how to live under your rules” is doing nothing to prepare them for how to live.
It really sounds like “talk to them” is just “command them and punish/shame them if that doesn’t work”.
do you believe that rules are put in place to obstruct you from what you want?
also, do you believe that you are exempt from the repercussions of breaking those rules?
Shaming your kid in the way you described is what I’m criticizing. Maybe address that.
judging from your response, yes.
your lack of an answer can only lead me to believe you also believe you’re exempt.
perhaps if you would have listened to your parents a bit more you could focus on answering some simple questions or not be perceived as “entitled”.
I’m sorry your parents failed you, but I’m not your parent so I would appreciate you not applying your poor experiences from their shitty parenting on me.
thanks!
Are you having a conversation with yourself? I don’t owe you any answers until you address my initial criticism. Or do you want to keep making up stuff I never said and then refuting it?
I don’t owe you any answers until you address my initial questions.
Yeah. That’s not how conversations work mate. You say something and someone criticizes you for it. You address the criticism. Not start rambling about shit you made up in your head.
You asked questions to change the topic away from my criticism of you publicly shaming your kids. Which you still have not addressed.
yeah, no. I’m well aware of what your perception of how this should have gone in your head. I don’t owe you anything in response to your criticism. frankly, I’m going to completely ignore it because it’s irrelevant and you’re desperate for me to respond to it. if I didn’t know better I would say you’re either too young to have children of your own or aren’t a parent.
are you certain you know what you’re talking about? thoughts are words in your head last I knew. then again, it seems you might be regurgitating whatever you want without a second thought. to each their own. I also didn’t make shit up. I asked very specific questions to help me understand who I was talking to, but it seems you’re only interested in berating strangers on the internet because of some desperate need to vilify parents that set limits for their children.
no, I asked questions that you should probably answer for yourself. I really don’t care about the answer at this point.
it’s abundantly clear to me that your parents failed you as a child and didn’t teach you there are limits and repercussions to breaking those limits.
I believe I’ve heard enough from you to understand that your perspective, although valid to you, does not apply to me or my parenting style.
this “conversation” has been disappointing, I would have hoped you could have worked past your emotions and had an adult discussion by asking questions instead of outright blasting me for being a “shitty” parent.