Because I want to be. I have a few casual partners and am regularly looking for others - but I find that I typically put more into relationships than I get out of them.
I think most people enter into relationships more out of a desire to remove uncertainty in their lives around having companionship (of whatever particular form they desire), and aren’t really being served by the relationship. But in life, uncertainty is the only constant, and we grow as people and can materially benefit by embracing it. So my take is that I will only enter into a relationship where I can reasonably expect that the relationship would serve me in achieving what I actually want in life, rather than simply being a crutch to avoid what I don’t want. And if I am lonely - then I am lonely. Loneliness is unpleasant. Good. One more unpleasant thing to work on acknowlaging and accepting to increase my inner tranquility.
Yeah that’s a good read. I find most of my dates/partners just want me to fix their money/emotional/esteem problems. But they absolutely have zero interest in solve that for themselves.
I’m just a means to their ending their own bad habits and internal conflicts. I have no interest in being someone’s parent like that, so the relationship has no basis to continue for either of us.
Especially as I don’t have any of those conflicts in my own life, and I don’t see any point in bring them into my life.
Because I want to be. I have a few casual partners and am regularly looking for others - but I find that I typically put more into relationships than I get out of them.
I think most people enter into relationships more out of a desire to remove uncertainty in their lives around having companionship (of whatever particular form they desire), and aren’t really being served by the relationship. But in life, uncertainty is the only constant, and we grow as people and can materially benefit by embracing it. So my take is that I will only enter into a relationship where I can reasonably expect that the relationship would serve me in achieving what I actually want in life, rather than simply being a crutch to avoid what I don’t want. And if I am lonely - then I am lonely. Loneliness is unpleasant. Good. One more unpleasant thing to work on acknowlaging and accepting to increase my inner tranquility.
Yeah that’s a good read. I find most of my dates/partners just want me to fix their money/emotional/esteem problems. But they absolutely have zero interest in solve that for themselves.
I’m just a means to their ending their own bad habits and internal conflicts. I have no interest in being someone’s parent like that, so the relationship has no basis to continue for either of us.
Especially as I don’t have any of those conflicts in my own life, and I don’t see any point in bring them into my life.