• otp@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    Yeah, no, I meant less the surface level stuff and more the “anything complex” category that you brought up.

    Not everybody wants to talk about that kind of stuff all the time, and that’s normal. But it has not been my experience that all men want to talk about surface level stuff and only women talk about deeper feelings.

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      2 days ago

      cool, my experience is that people only want to talk about their problems, regardless of gender. they dont’ give a fuck about yours and get offended and upset if you do so. but I’m male, and I’ve never had the experience of having anyone care about my problems beyond dismissing them as ‘bringing them down’ and that i need to ‘get over it’. even when it’s my dad dying of cancer and it’s my so called ‘loving girlfriend’ of years.

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        16 hours ago

        That really sucks, and I can’t tell you why your experience has been different from mine. I’d guess you ended up around shitty people. And maybe it kept happening, making you feel jaded and/or reluctant to share with others, including those who may have been more accepting.

        I’m glad you are least recognize that your girlfriend (hopefully “ex-” now) isn’t as loving as she seemed.

        I hope that you can find people to keep in your life with whom you can have those deep conversations about your feelings.

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          16 hours ago

          Because money mostly. Once people find out I am not rich they tend to treat me radically differently than when they are under the impression I’m wealthy.

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            11 hours ago

            I haven’t had that experience, but it’s probably because almost nobody assumes I’m rich in the first place, lol