Partially accurate, my man! Spent my lunch in the library, reading and thinking. But I got pulled across the country as a freshman to a new high-school (my parents did an ugly custody battle), and it took a lot of patience/endurance for me to cope. It all worked out at the end of the day… but hot damn, high-school was indeed a social challenge. I left after graduation and never went back to living under someone else. It was a hell of alotta growing pains my friend
And now my family is (mostly) mended, my parents are friends, and I’ve built my own life outside of that prior bullshit. Life’s wild, but yes… I often sat alone even when I didn’t want to. I think it helped me grow to be kinder
I’m glad you could appreciate it! and thank you for hearing me. Sometimes “honest questions get honest answers”. Didn’t think I was gonna belt out my personal hardships, because of a shower thought… but here we are I guess. Thanks again for listening though, that shit helps people more than you’ll ever see
Btw, what’s your similar trauma (if you feel ok to divulge)? Sometimes explaining it helps, and I’m here to hear you if it matters for ya. If it’s too much/heavy though, I still appreciate your understanding of it all <3
Divorced parents/nasty custody battle/switching school/lunching alone, for a time. It was a long time ago, and I’ve worked through it, for the most part. My original parents never did, I think, but moved on, nonetheless. I used to feel sad for them but the more I age, the more I realize it’s probably for the best. Can’t mend together what we refuse to face, individually.
Healing is available. It’s a slow, often painful, messy (non-linear process). But it’s doable. The alternative is stay sick, get sicker, perpetuate the cycle. You’re willing to talk about it a little, so it indicates the wounds haven’t yet calcified, and that’s a good sign. I encourage you to look into it, and various healing modalities.
In fact, I recommended starting with the basics, and exploring what help may be available to you until you stabilize*. But I have full faith in your capability to manage the journey.
Well damn… I really appreciate the openness. I wish you could’ve had a bit of the same outcome as myself, but I’m proud of you for not letting that shit define you. That there, takes some true strength. Much respect friend
I’ve found that some things can’t be mended, no matter how much you try to fix it. But learning how to accept that notion, is hard… my goal has been to be kinder than what I was taught
I truly hope you give something to someone else; that makes a difference you may never see. And I suspect you already have
It sounds like you used to sit alone at lunch in high school.
Partially accurate, my man! Spent my lunch in the library, reading and thinking. But I got pulled across the country as a freshman to a new high-school (my parents did an ugly custody battle), and it took a lot of patience/endurance for me to cope. It all worked out at the end of the day… but hot damn, high-school was indeed a social challenge. I left after graduation and never went back to living under someone else. It was a hell of alotta growing pains my friend
And now my family is (mostly) mended, my parents are friends, and I’ve built my own life outside of that prior bullshit. Life’s wild, but yes… I often sat alone even when I didn’t want to. I think it helped me grow to be kinder
I honestly really appreciated this heartfelt story my guy. I’m glad things worked out for you.
I’m glad you could appreciate it! and thank you for hearing me. Sometimes “honest questions get honest answers”. Didn’t think I was gonna belt out my personal hardships, because of a shower thought… but here we are I guess. Thanks again for listening though, that shit helps people more than you’ll ever see
If we’re trauma bonding over here, count me in. Similar tale.
Btw, what’s your similar trauma (if you feel ok to divulge)? Sometimes explaining it helps, and I’m here to hear you if it matters for ya. If it’s too much/heavy though, I still appreciate your understanding of it all <3
Divorced parents/nasty custody battle/switching school/lunching alone, for a time. It was a long time ago, and I’ve worked through it, for the most part. My original parents never did, I think, but moved on, nonetheless. I used to feel sad for them but the more I age, the more I realize it’s probably for the best. Can’t mend together what we refuse to face, individually.
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I suspect it’s more common than you may imagine. Fwiw, blood children are also treated this way.
https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/6-dysfunctional-family-roles-their-characteristics
Healing is available. It’s a slow, often painful, messy (non-linear process). But it’s doable. The alternative is stay sick, get sicker, perpetuate the cycle. You’re willing to talk about it a little, so it indicates the wounds haven’t yet calcified, and that’s a good sign. I encourage you to look into it, and various healing modalities.
https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/6-dysfunctional-family-roles-their-characteristics
https://www.simplepractice.com/resource/attachment-styles-worksheet/ (applies to all relationships)
https://ineffableliving.com/50-shadow-work-journal-prompts-that-go-deeper-than-surface-reflection/ (I would leave this until you’re stabilized and hitting plateaus).
In fact, I recommended starting with the basics, and exploring what help may be available to you until you stabilize*. But I have full faith in your capability to manage the journey.
Best to you, fellow traveler. 🫂
Well damn… I really appreciate the openness. I wish you could’ve had a bit of the same outcome as myself, but I’m proud of you for not letting that shit define you. That there, takes some true strength. Much respect friend
I’ve found that some things can’t be mended, no matter how much you try to fix it. But learning how to accept that notion, is hard… my goal has been to be kinder than what I was taught
I truly hope you give something to someone else; that makes a difference you may never see. And I suspect you already have
Trauma bonding is the only way I know how to bond! quietly sobs
Lies! I saw your sling bonding (and approve)! Have a good night/evening/day, my friend.
So much love, from across the interwebs <3
My love to everyone participating in this thread. We are deserving, worthy, and worth it. And we recognize each other.
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