19 (f) and a virgin. I was getting really turned on by what he was doing. Then he stuck his finger up there, not fast, and he let me know before he did it but I screamed stop because both the pressure and the pain was too much. he got it up by about an inch or less at that point. I’ve practiced myself and the same thing happens. it feels like someone putting a finger down your throat and then pushing at a right angle against the wall of your throat. this is not a good type of feeling to me. i cannot imagine anything else going there. is sex just one of those things women pretend to like and that’s what the women screaming during sex is about they’re screaming in pain? is there some kind of numbing gel or medication that every other woman uses that i never knew about or something? what am i missing here?
No, sex should not hurt. Does it hurt when you put in a tampon?
A couple of things to think about. One, yes the skin can be too tight, that can ease with time. Two, if you are not warmed up and turned on, you won’t have a good time. Lube does not substitute for arousal, arousal makes room and slip, lube only makes slip. Three, penetrative sex has always felt good not bad to me but only started feeling Really Good after I’d had kids and wasn’t so tight structurally.
Maybe for now do things that don’t involve penetration, and talk to your GYN - you should do that before having sex anyway, to discuss birth control, etc.