19 (f) and a virgin. I was getting really turned on by what he was doing. Then he stuck his finger up there, not fast, and he let me know before he did it but I screamed stop because both the pressure and the pain was too much. he got it up by about an inch or less at that point. I’ve practiced myself and the same thing happens. it feels like someone putting a finger down your throat and then pushing at a right angle against the wall of your throat. this is not a good type of feeling to me. i cannot imagine anything else going there. is sex just one of those things women pretend to like and that’s what the women screaming during sex is about they’re screaming in pain? is there some kind of numbing gel or medication that every other woman uses that i never knew about or something? what am i missing here?
This is a absolutely true but I think it’s important to note given the context that there’s a wide gap between “not orgasming” and the pain OP was describing. 80% of women not orgasming from vaginal penetration alone does not equal 80% of women experience pain from sex instead.
Also, many women enjoy vaginal penetration as a fun and pleasurable experience, even if it’s not an experience that leads to orgasm on its own.
I’m sure the person I’m replying to knows this, but given that this post is about a confused and frustrated person, I don’t want them to see this 80% statistic and think the takeaway is “sex is bad for 80% of women”
Very true, I figured they’ve already gotten that from the plethora of other comments but yeah no harm in keeping it less vague. No pleasure or less pleasure doesn’t mean pain or pressure. Also the 80% is 80% of women consistently having pleasure not 80% not having pleasure. Absolutely having no pleasure from anything would be not unheard of but pretty uncommon.