- tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes
- tried making friends, ended up ghosted
- tried looking for better job, then scammed
- tried save money, inflation happens
- tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.
- tried theraphy, the solution only dont think about it, its okay (if only it was that easy)
- tried being nice, taken advantage of
- tried being honest, get hatred
- tried religion, yet god let million of nice person suffers
- tried sleep, need regular medication
- tried work hard, ended up surgery and years of rehabilitation
at this point, i am so tired with whatever i do, it always doesnt work.
right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does. even those people who ghosted and bullied me ended up becoming rich and succesful, and here i am struggle everyday. life is really unfair world.
Honest answer you don’t wanna hear?
If you’re good to reap a benefit, you’re not good. You just tried maximizing your own profit by this and failed.
Being “good and nice” is an ethical decision and will not inherently reward you. Being evil is easy, as it’s our native state of existence. Egoisim, egocentrism, anthropocentrism. A cold heart can’t take any harm.
Being evil makes life in an evil world (capitalism, humanity itself) much easier. Yes. But also you’re part of the problem, not the solution. Even though noone gives a shit what you insect (no insult, just emphasizing our insignificance) do.
You will never be rewarded for doing the right or good thing. Or extremely rarely. Mostly you’ll be ridiculed, scammed, made fun of, exploited and whatever else.
Personally, I don’t give a fuck. I am what I am, if anyone wants to exploit me, it’s their loss. Looking for equals is hard, but very rewarding.
Lemme quote a game (lol…):
“What is better? To be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?”
Being evil is not the natural state of existence.
If that were the case, humanity would have never come this far.
Oh right, altruism and being nice-to-each-other is so intrinsic, hence we all get along so greatly and the world is a peaceful place to enjoy. You might be, my friend, but the majority of people obviously only cares for themselves and - to some extent as it benefits them - for others, if capabilities are left. Most even need religion to be told what is good and bad, those are the worst. Homo homini lupus est…
Wish you were right though, but that’d just be optimistic projection.
I think what the other guy is referring to is we wouldn’t have survived without us having some sort of tribiliasm. Which means you have to be somewhat (good) to one another.
True. But we were and are also fine with slaves. The “tribe” in tribalism is a very thin layer and has not much to do with “being good” though. It’s being nice to reap a benefit. If another tribe offers more, it’s go fuck yourself time 😁
Being nice isn’t about getting stuff for yourself
You can be nice, but establish boundaries. You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
i do set boundaries, i stopped once i was taken advantage of but still i feel that i am just wasting my effort of being nice which is frustating.
What makes you feel like you’re putting in effort?
i spent some time and energy to help them, yet what i got is taken advantage of. those time and energy can be used for something else.
What time and energy are spending?
Edit: I’m asking for examples because there are several things it can be. Right now, part of it may be that you’re setting yourself on fire to keep others warm, then you’re angry that your response isn’t reciprocal.
as example i contribute like listen and help giving advice to their problems, being as friendly as much as possible too and never triggers fight or conflict whatsoever but then one day, i am no longer able to as helpful as i am before and those ppl decided to ghosted me.
Yeah, it feels you’re giving others time when they won’t give it back. When you say you do so without causing a flight or conflict, maybe do so. Your time is valuable and also maybe they need to hear what they don’t want to hear.
Humans are socially engineered. Capitalism was created and designed to capitalize and corner. It rewards greed and selfish people often portraying the negative and evil characteristics. Our economy encourages evil people because they’re successful in capitalism. You won’t be a billionaire by caring about other people. All of them exploit a majority of the working class. The world right now is designed for bad people because economic success encourages negative characteristics. That’s why white collar crimes are a dime a dozen. Basically when you start with a turd and then gold spray it you end with a shiny turd. That’s why you always have feel good stories about some rich millionaire giving away or donating show up in news. Its news worthy to be rich, successful and a good person. Even though its basic human decency.
Why are you treating this like it’s transactional?
Your character is a reflection on you and not a ticket to preferential treatment.
because i prefer that nice person is fairly rewarded, they deserved good treatment but in fact it often happened backward instead.
Being a nice and good person is its own reward. It doesn’t matter if you were nice and got taken advantage of. What matters is that you were nice. It doesn’t matter that you saved money and it was hit by inflation. The point is that you saved money. What results from your actions can never be guaranteed. The point is that you did what you thought was right.
This is life, there are no guarantees, and randomness can create massive problems.
If you always look for a specific outcome (for what you put in as you see as effort), then you will most likely always be dissapointed.
The world sucks, then you die, so you might as well make the best of it while here and help your fellow humans along the way.
exactly this is so true, i really hate how random life is. if only life is fair enough to always reward nice person, then that will be utopia.
It’s less financially rewarding because most of the developed world exists in the context of late stage capitalism and / or oligopoly.
yes those big corpos can run away with anything even its bad stuff.
This just sounds like life. You sound like you’re in a depression slump because I start to view things the same way when I get in these slumps.
Being a helpful person is actually more rewarding to your well being than being a scammer. Read or listen to the YouTube audiobook, “The Art of Happiness by Dalai Lama”
Yeah. I just try to find the balance and let others deal.
how to find the balance?
It is never about good and evil, only about what works and what doesn’t. Contributing towards others wellbeing above your own will inevitably hurt the latter, unless you are so unshakeably well established within yourself that nothing can ever even scratch you. At the same time to even be capable to improve wellbeing of others you need your own wellbeing taken care of
And yes, wellbeing does not mean consuming more and of higher quality than someone else, it means being well
Are evil people negative? Pretty sure they are positive in a toxic sense
Yeah, they’d lipstick that pig for slaughter.
Capitalism
Because it’s constructive, simply put an explicit and constant effort. Your work is being cooped by other people, but it’s your work nonetheless. Evolve to find better ways to protecting it if you can - is the general notion. Your mileage may vary.
Have you tried to just sit in silence? That’s rewarding as hell.
doesnt work for me, it actually triggers my anxiety much more.
