I was just sitting at the mall taking a break from mall walking. A man walked over to me when I wasn’t even looking up. He said "I haven’t seen you here before. " I said I wasn’t really here to talk to people and got up and walked away. He said he would leave, he may even have said sorry. I said I was ready to leave anyway. In retrospect I think he may have just been slightly mentally challenged so I wish I had been a little softer, he did not turn out to be aggressive. Looking for suggestions on something still clear and firm but more polite? This scared me for some reason, I think how fast he walked up and sat down near me.

Editing to add a key detail, he sat down close to me which is probably what made me more nervous than I would have otherwise been. I appreciate all the thoughtful feedback I’ve gotten and interesting discussion.

  • velma@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    Women don’t have to be polite in their rejection especially when they are feeling uncomfortable.

    Fuck Politeness is about putting one’s own safety above other people’s feelings.

    • Feathercrown@lemmy.world
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      1 day ago

      Nobody has to be polite. It is simply good to do as long as it does not negatively impact safety.