My domain is still set to a former address of mine and I never bothered to update it fifteen years later.

You could provide an address for your registration… sometimes people make typos.

If there’s truly an audit or verification it’ll be easier to explain a typo than why you said you live at “123 Eat Shit Ave”.

I’d actually advise a low tech solution here. You can buy paper agendas designed for exactly this sort of thing, and we used one for my daughter.

There’s some benefits:

• it’s always where you need it, because it’ll always live beside the changing pad/table
• if there’s a “guest diaper changer”, they can use it
• if you’re tracking a late night feeding or change, you can scribble in the data without getting blasted by your phone backlight
• it’s a physical memento from that time you can flip through later

The cons include needing to look somewhere else for the time, which means checking your phone or a wall clock since that paper ain’t gonna tell you.

If you do go the app route, look into the accessibility settings on your phone to help with glaring backlight. On iOS, you can map the Siri button to apply a different black point, which basically toggles to a much darker backlight than you’d normally get.

Now, whenever I’m lurking around the kid while she’s sleeping, I just triple-tap that button and it dims my backlight to something that won’t disturb her.

It’s important to identify the tasks you and your spouse do, and how you feel about them. Sharing the loaf works better if there are things your spouse does that you personally despise doing.

For example, I do all the shopping, cooking, working, and clean the kitchen. It’s a heavy load, but those are all things I don’t mind doing so it’s tolerable. My wife handles laundry, cleaning most of the rest of the home, meal planning, and does a higher proportion of the direct child care. She doesn’t mind those things nearly as much as she hates the tasks I do.

As one of us burns out from one task or other, we frequently check in and adjust. Sometimes I just can’t deal with the kitchen anymore and we order in takeout for a couple days. Sometimes she’s overwhelmed by chores and we tag team getting the obvious tasks done while the kid is napping.

For technology, AnyList has been a killer app. Being able to collaborate on meal planning and building shopping lists is amazingly useful.

I think the broader problem with mental labour is that men have typically been blind to many of the general maintenance tasks that women have silently done for generations, and this unspoken arrangement creates resentment. As long as you keep that in mind, it’s pretty easy to have conversations about it. Like other posters have said - make a list! Once you’ve written down all the things that have to happen to keep a household running, you can delegate them accordingly or at least make it highly visible as to who does what. It’s not necessarily wrong to have an imbalance, provided you’re both aware and honest about it.

I’ll talk all kinds of shit about that movie, but I’ve watched it end to end more times than most movies I’ve seen, and it’s never been a hate watch.

That is absolutely false.

Corporations can only donate on your behalf, so they get no tax benefits whatsoever. They cannot claim the money you donated as income nor can they donate it under their own name. The only thing they can do is use it for PR and tell the public “they helped raise $x for this cause”.

That said, if you donate a non trivial amount to charity, you should do it directly with the charity so you can get a tax receipt and write it off on your personal taxes.

This could be as innocent as “hiring manager was on vacation and we still have some interviews planned” or “our interviewer was caught fornicating with a chicken and we’ve had to make some internal changes”.

I would take it as a positive sign that you’re still in the running, but like others have said, I wouldn’t pause my other job searching tasks to wait for this one to play out.

I think I’m at my wit’s end with “smart” things.

Roomba? It takes less time to just vacuum the place than it does for the fucking vacuum to realize it’s been humping the same chair leg for most of its battery charge.

Assistants?

“Hey Google, open the bedroom blinds”

“Sorry, that device hasn’t been configured yet”

“Hey Google, open the bedroom blinds”

“Sure, turning 2 lights on”

“Hey Google, open the bedroom blinds”

“Sure, opening the blinds”

I hung around on Reddit for like 15 years before I left, and I saw a progression from earnest debate to sarcasm becoming dominant in a lot of subs, particularly the busy ones. I imagine this holds true for any popular, long-term forums.

This is what I see:

Person A comes in and gives an opinion that is opposed to the general consensus in the community (“hive mind”).

Person B responds with a detailed explanation of why that opinion has been soundly rejected and how it maps to “the consensus”. This is the kind of quality post that made Reddit shine. It gets upvotes like crazy not because it’s “right”, but because it clearly explains how you get from opinion A to opinion B in a way anybody can follow.

Five years passes.

Person ZZZZ comes in and gives the SAME opinion as Person A.

Person B, inexplicably still a member of the community, responds with a short blast of sarcasm that makes it clear they disagree with that opinion, but long gone are the days where they bother to thoughtfully contrast the opposing views. It’s basically a snappy “you’re dumb and wrong; get fucked” comment. It gets upvoted like crazy this time not because it explains anything, but because it echoes the tired sentiment of the community.

I don’t even know if that’s a Reddit thing or just a general human experience thing. If someone were to approach you alone IRL and say they have concerns about trans athletes, you might have enough energy (and recent context) to be willing to explore the issues and explain your take on several facets of the arguments people commonly make.

If someone came up to you and said they aren’t sure about “this women voting thing”, I can’t imagine you’re going to be nearly as patient or willing to engage. Women’s suffrage has SAILED. The time for debate ended when your great grandmother died.

I saw a similar thing with the current wars. Early on there were interesting points raised. Now if someone comes in with a “unique” opinion on Ukraine or Gaza, they get buried in downvotes or told to fuck off. The time for debate has passed.

Maybe it’s an issue of people joining a debate late and wanting to understand the issues become indistinguishable from bots and trolls with a paid agenda. Volunteers can’t be arsed to waste time educating them.

“How impressed everybody is” is the basis of money, law, self-worth and our models of reality.

Can you expand on that some? On the surface, it doesn’t match my experience at all.

First post the post, I guess. I’m told all the other options are too difficult for people to understand, apparently.

You got sentenced because a tree branch fell and damaged a fence? Sentenced to what? By whom?

It sounds like you’re in an ideal position since you’re leaving anyway.

Option 1: fuck em. Tell them nothing. Remain professional and curt until your last day and never look back. Don’t bother with the exit interview.

Option 2: say nothing to your manager. During the exit interview (assuming it’s not just your manager in attendance), tell them your manager constantly pressures you to engage in social activity outside your work scope. You didn’t want to do that because there’s already so much pettiness and politics and you don’t see how more social exposure to your coworkers would improve that.

Option 3: sit down with your manager right now and explain that you don’t want to make friends with your coworkers. You’re perfectly happy getting along with them and doing good work, but you keep your social life separated from your work life. You find constant non-work chatter as a distraction and it keeps you from concentrating on and delivering good work.

Option 4: quit now. Unless you really need a reference from this company in the future, every shift you remain there is just doing them a favour. Write a letter to the CEO outlining why you’re leaving and why you don’t see any possibility of the company culture improving under its current management.

Quite frankly, the fact that she used the word “family” suggests she’s too out to lunch and can’t be reasoned with. She didn’t become a manager through any sort of training and doesn’t possess the mindset to empathize where people are coming from if they aren’t exactly like her.

You need to rotate your pc case if the VGA port isn’t vertical. The ground pins always need to be on top so all those grounding electrons weigh down the other conductors to make the data flow more quickly.

You’re an adult and can make your own decisions.

Hopefully, anyway. I’m an adult and can barely make any decisions, but I hope I’m an outlier.

25 users

37 communities

3 instances

I don’t think I’ve added to the list in months.

I haven’t noticed that at all. Whenever I see an argument made in good faith, there’s frequently contrary responses that delve into the actual issues and discuss some of the nuance around them. I found Reddit far worse (especially the default subs).

On Reddit, any comment reply I got was usually someone telling me to kill myself or correcting some boring pedantic thing. On Lemmy they usually make me think about the issue some more, and they’re never frothing-at-the-mouth aggressive.

But it might also depend a lot on what communities you spend time in, what instance you’re on, and what instances you have blocked.

If I’m understanding what you want to hear, you should totally just buy Aldi’s taquitos. Maybe a drink if you’re feeling fancy.

This is expected Canadian source code:

// cache the colour in case we need it later for the neighbour
color = fetchColor();
neighbor.color = color;

When language keywords are all written in American English it’s foolish to try to author your code in a different language. But comments are fair game.

I was coming around a bend on a really wide, “gentle“ road behind a business park. It had no cars parked on the street and was wide open with little traffic.

Come around the corner and see, right in the middle of the road, a driving school car flipped on its roof. No other cars around, no hazards. Just a perfectly placed car on its head, even pointed down the road as though some movie prop guys had installed it.

Standing beside it was a very bored and sad looking cop directing traffic. I think he was tired of every passing car taking a picture as they drove by.

My apartment complex has a Facebook group that serves the same purpose. It’s kind of a mess.

Last week someone posted their security camera footage showing some homeless guy (in his-vis) casing their patio. The neighborhood watch quickly confirmed this scumbag had been poking around the property for days. A police report was created. People went out looking for him.

A couple hours later, the maintenance guy replies to the thread saying the guy is a contractor fixing damaged decks. There are signs up everywhere about it. People got email notifications. And yet they still found a way to create a panic and also waste the cops’ time.

Any time there’s a “popular” thread in that group, it’s always something like that.

My advice is to never join any online community with your neighbors. It’ll just scare you by how fucking stupid the average person is.