• LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I’ve gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can’t seem to find a care to do it anymore. I’m sure it’s tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have no drive to keep doing it.

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      It’s almost creepy, are you me? This is exactly how i would describe the shit i am like for about a year now.

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        Not quite, I’m the mirrored version you see when you look in the mirror, except I must say the mirror must be fogged because it says lady in your name, so you’d have to be squinting hard. My beard is a bit hard to mistake, lol. Hope you find some sort of spark in your life soon that starts to make things better, I really need to find a new line of work probably.

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      I get like this if I have a good weekend, trip or vacation. It’s supposedly supposed to make you feel better in life but for me the stress beforehand (if it’s a big trip) and the depression afterward almost make it easier to bury my head in work and not peak too far outside my little bubble.

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    Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.

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    It’s easy to be friendly at work. But turning that “work-friend” relationship into a real friendship, one where you do things outside of work together, is still a mystery to me. I have no idea how people do that. Others make it look so easy. I can’t imagine anyone at my job dislikes me, we all compliment each other, laugh at each others’ jokes, and hold fun conversations on the clock. Yet when a crowd gets together after work and plans where to go next, I’m baffled. I’m too anxious to invite myself, but nobody ever invites me, so I just try to ignore it so I don’t feel hurt. :')

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      Same as any relationship you just ask. Make it easy and do a group drinks after work first then if you hit it off plan something.

      I swear as someone who overthinks everything it amazes me I don’t with this and other people do lol

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          Do you work with a team/department? Just say let’s go out for dinner/drinks after work. Just like outside work expect maybe 50% to commit.

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    Playing the harmonica.

    Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn’t squeak - unless you’re doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don’t get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).

    I’m very bad at the harmonica.

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    Snowboarding, even without any tricks or anything fancy. Just cruising down the snow is also very difficult.

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      I picked it up very quickly. Swapping edge and linking turns in a few runs and jumping baby kickers and doing small board slides on day 2.

      The only hard part by far is using T-bars. I still fall on them 😞 Even in the kids area lol. And yet I just did a few runs of my first black and only went down on that twice.

      The thing that clicked for me was to look further ahead, keep up pace, and stop thinking. Kind of clicked in minutes after that.

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        I started skiing when I was very young and I was always bad at it. Never really improved, but golly I was really good at super pie-ing my way down difficult stuff.

        I switched to snowboarding and it just clicked for me. It felt so much better and made way more sense.

        Not to say it’s easy, but give it a try. You might really enjoy yourself.

        On a side note, I’ve since learned that I just suck at motion that has me with my feet facing forward. I can’t roller skate or ice skate to save my life, but long boarding or skate boarding are find. I’m a little shaky on scopters, but it’s not as bad as skates

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          My skiing days are done I think. But ya anything that moves that puts itself betweeny feet and the ground has never worked out well for me. Skating , roller skates, skiing snow and water

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        Consider this: unlike skiing, you don’t have anything in your hands. You have to completely control the board by your legs.

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          I’m not a skier but I don’t think you’re supposed to control the skies with your hands either.

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      Warm white lightbulbs, anti blue coatings on glasses and settings in every device, and occasionally remembering to not drink caffeine past 4pm (even if you’re a ‘caffeine makes me tired’ person it still keeps your brain kicking and out of rem sleep) were the kickers that got me into a good sleep schedule

      The second I had a pair of glasses with those night driving amber lenses I genuinely noticed my sleep being better, felt myself actually getting tired and would actually go to bed early.

      The doomscrolling in bed didn’t help either

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    Turning when you’re riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.

    Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn’t going to be able to turn much unless you’re actually giving it some throttle.

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    Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free

    You get into it thinking it’s a fun hobby and now it’s sunday night, you’re on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it’s fucking impossible without a garage

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      I exaggerated a bit but I swear it’s not far off

      I want a fucking garage :-/

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        Folks often ask me how I manage to keep my old cars looking & running so great. I’d love to say it’s because I do all the maintenance, and of course that helps. But the real answer is because I keep them in a garage. It really is that simple. It blows my fucking mind that America is so car-centric on every other aspect except having housing with enough garage space.

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          It’s not even keeping it in the garage for me, it’s that I need a garage to do anything. Working on the street is so annoying.

          Right now, to do a polish&protect I gotta ask other people with private property (I live in an apartment) and they always bug me with “oh it’s my holiday, so YOU can’t work” or they keep nagging to me about how what I’m doing is pointless, or that I spent too much money on this (I did…but don’t tell me what to do!!..)

          1 It’s not work, it’s a hobby, and 2. Next time you try to have me be a delivery boy for you during a holiday I’m saying no, unless I forgot to check your holidays.

          Like god damn just let me do my nice hobby in peace. I already helped you with countless things even during my work hours, let me have a nice time and stop imposing your religion, financials, and whatever other crap on me.

          I feel like I’m the only guy around here that just helps however he’s asked to without imposing my views on others as I’m helping them.

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    Digital music production. Making a tune is easy, making it sound good and well balanced is a bitch.

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      I tried making music once for a game jam where we swapped roles with someone

      I’ve learned to never even think about making music in the foreseeable future lol

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          That customer might be over their heads lol

          AI in game development is cringe

          I did game dev for the love of the game, not to spin games up as efficiently as possible.

          There’s a reason why many people hate seeing AI in games. It’s viewed as a passion project for many, and AI kinda tosses that out the window

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          I think it’s great that people make free music, I do so myself, but it’d be wrong to think that it’ll fit perfectly.

          I’d much rather see developers taking contact and getting custom made music that actually fits. Free or paid that’s not the question, but just to have someone make a conscious decision of what actually fits the game.

          It’s such a large part of the game experience that it’s a shame that it’s often left up to random generic human or AI generated tunes.

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            A cool thing is that there are several instances on that site of people dropping a whole OST for a canceled game (often an RPG), so the music will at least be consistent with itself, if not your game, and if you’re making something in the same genre a lot of it could fit (e.g. battle theme, super sad moment, boss battle).

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        Bitch is used colloquially to signify that something is excessively difficult or unpleasant as well.

        You could also say mixing and mastering are fucking hard. But that would not be to say they are engaged in passionate intercourse; rather, fucking, in this context, simply emphasizes the difficulty of the task.

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        I’d recommend downloading FL studio’s trial version and experimenting by making a simple trap beat. The only cost is your time!