Bless your heart.
That’s not quite how “nice” works.
Minnesota Nice is like an iceberg. The Trump administration is the Titanic.
Lmao I deserved that first liner
Would you talk more about that. Im pleasantly intrigued. Is their passive aggressive game lethal + legendary to compensate?
Minnesota Nice means you’re friendly and pleasant to everyone, help out those in need, and your values actions and behavior do not change, either as an individual or as a community.
Populism, fascism and naziism work by gaslighting people and getting them to fight against each other.
It has no power over a critical mass of people who are relentlessly nice. It doesn’t matter how you redistrict, how you craft the evening news, even how many armored vehicles you roll through town or how many people you arrest. It’s real life A Bug’s Life.
Being nice doesn’t mean being a pushover. It just means eternally holding the line against hate and intolerance as a community. And Minnesota communities have learned the hard way that it’s often the only way to survive.
Very informative and lyrical response. Thank you for that
“Minnesota Nice” is a bullshit term made up by, I have to assume, rude Yankees who can’t understand being polite to someone one dislikes.
Nah, it’s like real southern hospitality. It ain’t about those assholes over there, it’s about how you choose to go through life.
Doesn’t mean you can’t be assertive. But you be assertive with manners.
Even the southern “bless your heart” isn’t what it gets made out to be. We all know damn good and well it’s a way of saying “oh wow, you’re fucked”, or “I’m better than you” some of the time, but it’s still calling a blessing on someone, and ain’t that better than just calling someone a bad name?
Minnesota nice is essentially the same. Finding a nice way to approach not nice circumstances. It’s why southerners and folks from that region get along, doncha know.
For real, try it for a while. Make a serious effort to be yourself, express your feelings and thoughts, but phrase them with manners and restraint. It works . I’m not saying there’s never a time to pull off your shirt and earrings and fuck someone up, but the less aggro you are on average, the more impact it has when you finally do pop that can of whupass.
Edit: a little of the bard to show that one can be assertive, even aggressive, without also losing one’s self.
SAMPSON
Nay, as they dare. I will bite my thumb at them; which is a disgrace to them, if they bear it.
Enter ABRAHAM and BALTHASAR
ABRAHAM
Do you bite your thumb at us, sir?
SAMPSON
I do bite my thumb, sir.
ABRAHAM
Do you bite your thumb at us, sir?
SAMPSON
[Aside to GREGORY] Is the law of our side, if I say ay?
GREGORY
No.
SAMPSON
No, sir, I do not bite my thumb at you, sir, but I bite my thumb, sir.
GREGORY
Do you quarrel, sir?
ABRAHAM
Quarrel sir! no, sir.
SAMPSON
If you do, sir, I am for you: I serve as good a man as you.
ABRAHAM
No better.
SAMPSON
Well, sir.
GREGORY
Say ‘better:’ here comes one of my master’s kinsmen.
SAMPSON
Yes, better, sir.
ABRAHAM
You lie.
SAMPSON
Draw, if you be men. Gregory, remember thy swashing blow.
They fight
Enter BENVOLIO
What do i say to people in the hallway or laundry room of my apartment building to get them to be quiet and respectful in a public space they grossly abuse volume-wise
I find myself storming out and confronting which seems to be working but it doesnt feel great and it annoys me to no end
You know, it’s so lovely that you shared whatever the worst thing they were loud about with us, it’s nice to know all those little details about a neighbor.
Said with a smile, as genuine as you can make it.
A lot of times its children screaming
This morning it was blasting music
you say, to the parents:
“Kids are a riot, aren’t they? I heard them living it up already early this morning. All that youthful energy! I wish I could still run around like that. Unfortunately I’m getting older and I need my beauty sleep, and can’t get up that early without feeling it later. I’m sure your understand how it is.”
This shows:
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understanding of their situation without judgement
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your needs and expectations without being demanding
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trust in them to handle their own business now that they have this information
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Oh, that’s time to party! You just start dancing and singing along. Join in the screaming and laughing.
Im thinking of blasting Georgia Browns dolphin song on full blast with my portabke speaker every time getting sharper and louder and faster on repeat over time
