The actual dating part. Aside from 2 relationships I had in my high school days, everyone I dated I met through dating apps and it just feels forced. Like, we didn’t meet naturally and know literally nothing about each other, so it just feels like work to accomplish a goal and not having fun with a friend. So much effort is spent getting to know the other person and it kinda feels like a job. I wish I could skip that part and just be in the “best friends that have sex” phase forever.
I love getting to know new people. Especially in the context of sexual tension. People are so interesting when it’s about themselves, their emotions, worldviews and preferences.
Getting to know what people are genuinely excited about is always fun! To me at least.
The actual dating part. Aside from 2 relationships I had in my high school days, everyone I dated I met through dating apps and it just feels forced. Like, we didn’t meet naturally and know literally nothing about each other, so it just feels like work to accomplish a goal and not having fun with a friend. So much effort is spent getting to know the other person and it kinda feels like a job. I wish I could skip that part and just be in the “best friends that have sex” phase forever.
I love getting to know new people. Especially in the context of sexual tension. People are so interesting when it’s about themselves, their emotions, worldviews and preferences.
Getting to know what people are genuinely excited about is always fun! To me at least.
Maybe don’t force it? Just hang out with them. If it’s fun, do it again.
“Success is your journey, not your destination”.