Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
No and anyone who says no is suspect. Fluid bonding with a hookup is stupid. It’s a kind of stupid that’s common, but there’s a reason experienced nonmonogamists will often either demand a recent clean test with no new partners since it or protection. And he doesn’t know you’re clean.
Also if you aren’t prepared for an abortion or a kid it’s generally a good idea to use two contraception methods before having potentially reproductive sex