Why are most people here are negative and rude?

Just to be clear here, I am not talking about instance, rather I am asking about the whole community.

There is no one I seen here who even had expressed any passion towards anything really.

I cannot understand how did that happen?

  • Deepus@lemm.ee
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    6 hours ago

    Its the internet, no matter how much people here like to think lemmy is some kind of special utopia its no different to any other site or social media.

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      The amount of dogshit takes from 2 week old to 3 month old accounts is absurd, Lemmy instances should institute a one month lurking period or something. Some fuckass actually posted Asmongold to a gaming group. Its a tidal wave.

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    15 hours ago

    I don’t think it’s “growing,” more that as society continues to get worse people’s outlooks grow darker.

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    13 hours ago

    The Tumblr effect

    Thing allows freedom of speech Thing now has “bad apples” Thing either get lobotomized or accomodates with that freedom.

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    20 hours ago

    I’ve found much more genuine, honest discussion on here than other platforms. More people say thanks when someone corrects them. I feel like I’m talking to reasonable adults, for the most part.

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    Okay, there are three reasons why this is:

    1. Anonymity grants people the ability to be assholes.

    2. You’ve done something or said something that was going to get people riled up over.

    3. People from rejected instances, sites .etc come here to carry over their shitty nature.

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    1 day ago

    Are people negative and rude or not expressed passion towards anything?

    Also, I think there is a good passion for tech surrounding this community. I like that.

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      Yeah ! Except in the dev/code realm… They seem very aggressive to each other, specially if you whisper something like: Rust is safer than C !

      I don’t really get it, but I find It very pleasant to read when passionate people write a whole essay I don’t even understand 1/10 of what they are writing… However, there seems some heated negativity in that community !

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    It’s probably a downstream effect of the souring mood in the United States as the consequences of the current administration and our slide into fascism become increasingly apparent. Can’t speak for the rest of the world, but it’s hard to believe things are getting better out there.

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      24 hours ago

      ehhh i wouldn’t it way to start and angry mob and sometimes i dont trust mods descension. since even servers with no rules will make up reasons for a ban

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        Find the best available option? Or start your own server with no rules and attract others who want no rules?

        I think a good community would have restrictions to avoid unnecessary hate

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    1 day ago

    We’re negative doomscrollers, true. But most people seem pretty polite, at least in my experience.

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      12 hours ago

      I can be negative. But I love people and want the best for everyone. What I don’t like are the toxic systems of control that some people are under, and some people follow. Aand sometimes I can be swept up in the injustice, and lose my patience with extreme followers.

      I apologise in advance to this community if I make someone’s mood worse, instead of better. I can often fail, and yet we should all strive to be a healthy member of the communities we inhabit!

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    You’ll have to be more specific. I’m not seeing any unusual amount of negativity.

    What’s that thing about expressing any passion? What do you mean by that?

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      Go to any political post. Everyone is calling others names and it’s not productive at all.

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        But that’s humans? It’s always been like that, everywhere at all times. The only thing that’s changed, maybe, is that Lemmy is growing and there’s more discussion in general so of course the absolute number of things that cause name-calling has grown too, just like the absolute number of things that don’t.

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    1 day ago

    Selection bias mostly, you only remember the negative interactions. I’m new here but I’ve not run into any particularly negative or rude people so they don’t seem super common, nowhere near like reddit.

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      24 hours ago

      yeah i noticed they tend to go after certain posts and they need to be primed by either downvotes or a comment. the rude people will be quiet if you make safe posts but if they get a hint that there other people that don’t like you then they dogpile. i noticed a good way to trigger it is to basically say or imply you do things without their approval or you dont care what they think

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        24 hours ago

        That sounds… rather conspiratorial.

        Also, just yesterday I posted a longish rant about doing what you want and not caring about what people think in a comment and the only reply I got was ‘This is the kind of pep talk I need!’, so… shrug Guess we travel in different circles.

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          22 hours ago

          well i don’t say that its orchestrated or premeditated, its generally that group wants to feel part of a group and they look for signs that they’re part of a group. the “tipping point” is a comment (or even a downvote on op replies) and then people that seek approval align themselves with the largest group.

          I told the anti ai crowd that i was going to make an ai bot somewhere on the fediverse just to see how people would interact with it fedizens, simply to satify my curiosity, so that’s the context. i just telling people “you’re being an asshole to me and making demands from me while I’m just trying to hear you out, so i don’t feel like changing for you”

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            22 hours ago

            My bad, perhaps the better word to use would’ve been paranoid. Had a similar ring to ‘they only come out when no one else is looking’, ya know?

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              20 hours ago

              Oh okay. I did have a conversation I tried to explain a litteral conspiracy and I kept getting called a conspiracy theorist